ONE DEFAULT THING TO DO IN ANY SITUATION
One of the concepts that I really think is valuable to
get a handle on is called "Always have one default thing to
do in every common situation."
It's amazing to me when I watch a guy interacting with a
woman, and everything is going well... and then it's time
for him to either step up and make something happen, or
walk away like the wussy he is for NOT taking action...
...AND HE JUST DOESN'T DO IT!
Ohhhhhhhh I hate it when that happens.
I'm sure you've never had this happen. Neither have I,
of course.
I was out yesterday at the cell phone store getting a new
phone (because a certain company who's name starts with "S"
has the worst customer service on the planet)... sorry, I
digress... and I witnessed a painful episode of "Wuss Drops
The Ball" right before my eyes.
A tall, blonde model-type girl was waiting to get
herself a new antenna for her phone, and Mr. Smooth started
a conversation with her by saying "What kind of phone do
you have?"
The conversation was going along well, and they were
both smiling and laughing about phones and such.
Finally, Ms. Model walked up to the counter and got her
new antenna, then said "good bye" to Mr. Wuss-Of-All-Time,
who proceeded to smile dorkily at her and wave as she
walked out of his life forever.
He just watched her walk all the way to the other end
of the store, out the door, and out of sight.
You've probably seen the "I'm SUCH a loser" look.
Well, he had it.
IT WAS GOING SO WELL FOR HIM! WHY DIDN'T HE JUST ASK
HER FOR SOME INFO? EMAIL? NUMBER? ANYTHING!
He had that look in his eye of "Damn. I really should
have just asked her for her number."
Twenty bucks says that he thought about that girl all
day long, and imagined 47 different great things that he
SHOULD have said in the moment - but didn't.
The only reason I'm so sure of this is because I used
to do this exact thing myself all the time. And now I
know that many, many guys go through scenarios like this
every day - but never get any positive results because
they're not READY TO ACT IN THE MOMENT.
For some strange reason, many guys feel compelled to
come up with some UNIQUE and ORIGINAL way to handle
every situation. And you know what that usually leads
to... (right, a date with Rosy Palmer and her 5 sisters).
So what's the answer?
The answer is to have ONE DEFAULT THING TO DO IN
EVERY COMMON SITUATION.
One way to start conversations with women.
One way to ask for emails and/or phone numbers.
One way to take things to a physical level.
One place to go out with a woman...
...etc., etc., etc....
I can hear it now:
"But David, it sounds kind of corny to ask every woman
for her number the same way..."
I get it.
I used to feel the same way.
But here's the deal: If you will just take the time to
learn and prepare ONE simple way to handle each of the most
common situations, you'll be about a hundred times more
successful than if you try to "figure out something unique
and original on the spot" every time.
And here's the irony of the situation...
Once you get a default way to handle each common
situation, and you start experiencing SUCCESS on a regular
basis with women, you'll GAIN the ability to create
better ideas on the spot.

Action Steps:
1) Choose the one situation that happens most often, the one
that you'd like to have an EXACT default sequence of words
and behaviors to use to get you to the next level.
2) Close your eyes, and mentally run through the last five
or ten situations like this that you were in.
3) Brainstorm 10 or 20 great ways that you could handle
this particular situation in the future.
4) Choose the one single best idea on the list, and refine
it down to an exact sequence.
5) Close your eyes again and mentally rehearse it. See
yourself doing it in your mind's eye. Move around and play
it out... if you need to stand up, do it. Actually imagine
that a woman is in the room with you, and pretend that
you're getting her number, kissing her, or whatever.
6) If your mom comes into your room, quickly transition
into "Macbeth" and claim that you were improvising on
Shakespeare!
Seriously, it's ULTRA important for you to know what
you're going to do next time you're talking to a woman and
you want to ask for her email of phone number.
If you don't know what you're going to do and exactly
how to do it, then you're probably going to come across
like Mr. Smooth in the cel phone store...
Here's the irony of this situation:
WOMEN WANT YOU TO TAKE THE NEXT STEP!
But if you don't, then they won't either.
A woman will think to herself... "He seems nice, funny,
interesting. I wish he'd ask me for my number... Oh, he's
nervous... how cute. Well, if he can't get up the nerve to
ask me for my number, then I'm not going to overcome his
inner WUSSY and do it for him. Poor thing."
And I'm not kidding about this.
Find an attractive woman and read this newsletter to
her. She'll laugh her ass off at what I just wrote. Really.
Of course, if you would like to take a look at the
"Teacher's Edition" of the high-school algebra book and
learn some of the secrets that it's taken me literally
YEARS to learn, then I'd recommend that you download a copy
of my online eBook "Double Your Dating." It's full of
literally DOZENS of the very best ideas for taking things
from one step to the next. Just go to:
http://www.doubleyourdating.com/ebook/
...now and download your copy. It's the very best investment
you can make in your dating success.
And I'll talk to you again soon.
Your Friend,
David D.
MEETING WOMEN IN DIFFERENT PLACES
***QUESTION***
Hey David,
I was wondering if you could offer any wisdom on what
you've gained from writing and responding to online
personal ads. I'm not having a great deal of luck so
far. Specifically, my questions are:
1. How brief should your descriptions of yourself
and/or your ideal catch be? I've heard it said that
"brevity is the soul of wit", but you also want to be
memorable, right?
2. When writing descriptions, should you stick with
C&F? I've noticed that humor often doesn't translate
well in written form, so I wasn't sure how to go about
all that.
3. I think I read in a previous newsletter that you
recommend not posting a picture. At the same time, I
tend to avoid ads without pictures due to having one
too many blind dates which ended with me throwing a
stick and shouting "fetch!" in order to distract her
long enough to get away. Don't you think that by
committing a picture on your ad, women might pass you
up for the same reason? Or am I mistaken?
An apprentice,
J.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
You've asked some questions that really require more of an
in-depth treatment... but here are a few pointers that have
taken me YEARS to figure out:
1) You'll get more responses in general by replying to
personal ads placed by women than you will by placing your
own ad (Unless you're a master of writing personal ads).
2) If you're going to use the personals, look at the new
ads that are placed daily, and respond as soon as a woman
places her ad. Attractive women typically get 50-100
responses per DAY to personal ads, and it's very easy to
get overwhelmed. You'll notice that a lot of women take
their ads down after just a few days... this is why.
3) Be charming and funny (also known as COCKY and funny) in
your replies (or in your ad, if you write your own). Say
things like "I was looking through all these ads here on
the internet thinking to myself "Look at all the poor,
desperate, lonely women..." and then I saw your ad and
thought to myself "Hey, here's a poor, desperate, lonely
woman that's actually CUTE..." so I thought I'd write and
see if you're as interesting on the inside as you are in
this picture..."
4) I mentioned in one of recent newsletters that I got an
email from a guy who had his picture taken with some
dolphins... and that he's getting tons of responses from
that. I've never done it myself, but it sounds like a great
idea!
***QUESTION***
Dave, love your book. I have learned more about women in
the last two months than I knew in my lifetime. The teasing
and being cocky/funny really turns them on. I have know
this girl for some time and we were mostly friends. Just
lately she said to me "I love you R,". Is it ok for me to
tell her I love her too or is it better to say nothing and
just smile which I did so far.
R.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Take a cue from Han Solo...
Say "I know".
You might throw in a sly half-smile to let her know that
you're having fun after you say it.
As far as your question of "Is it OK to tell her that I
love her too?" I can't answer that. You're at a stage
that is past our topic here.
I think that love and relationships are great, but since
this isn't the area that I choose to talk about, you're
going to have to decide for yourself.
Just don't turn into a wussy... that's bad no matter what.
***COMMENT***
It seems like a lot of the guys who subscribe to your
newsletter and buy the book - myself included - are average
guys who have trouble with girls just because they are
afraid of getting rejected. I've got an idea that might
help. Get two or three good friends together and have a
'contest' where the goal is to get shot down. Spend a day
or a night out in clubs, coffee shops, malls, etc. going up
to girls with the sole intention of having them reject you,
and whoever gets rejected the most times wins. Try out any
approach - good or bad - you can think of. Be rude, crude,
funny, serious, a nice guy, a jerk, whatever you want, and
take notes on how the girls react. If she slaps your face,
that's fine because that's the goal. And if she doesn't
shoot you down, that's even better. After a night like
this you'll become a bit 'numb' when you are rejected in
the future, and you'll have a better understanding of how
girls react to being hit on. If necessary go to a
different city for the weekend and try it out there, so
that you aren't afraid of running into these girls again.
- C.L.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
I think that the basic idea is good, but I'd say that you're
probably better off seeing who can get the most email
addresses - instead of seeing who can get shut down.

If you go out with the specific idea of being rude, crude,
a jerk, etc. I think you're working on the wrong outcome.
I get what you're saying about how this might make you
"numb"
to future rejection...
But I think you'll learn a lot more if you take the approach
of "We're each going to approach 50 women today, and let's
see who can get the most email addresses". Focus on what you
want, not what you don't want.
***QUESTION***
Hey Dave,
First off, I want to thank you for spreading your
wisdom. I bought your book two weeks ago after
reading several of your newsletters, and it was the
answer to most of my prayers. I've gone from dating
a girl maybe two women in a year, to dating 3 women
at once, all 3 call me every day, and this was before
I even bought the book, just from the advice from
your emails!! You have definitely "Doubled" my
dating!!
My question, one girl in particular I find really
attractive and the most challenging (which I like)
still has a "Control Freak" boyfriend, with whom I
think she’s afraid to break up with. He's the kind of
guy that would threaten to kill himself if she were
to leave him, but basically uses her for sex, and
controls most aspects of her life. Should I just
stop talking to her? Or keep bustin her balls about
why she’s still with him? Because I find myself
feeling some sort of sympathy for her, and its
affecting my "cocky and funny" routine (with her
at least).
Thanks for your help!!
C. from MD
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Let me ask you a question...
Why in the world would you want to be with a woman who has
a "suicidal control freak" boyfriend fetish?
When you meet a woman like this, the warning bells should
be going off in your head... "Danger Will Robinson, Danger!"
Do yourself a HUGE favor. Find a woman who's interesting
and "challenging" like her that DOESN'T have a psycho
neurotic boyfriend... and don't turn into one.
***COMMENT FROM A WOMAN***
I just wanted to say thank you, from all the
women out here in single land. Out of curiosity, I
clicked on a link from [another website] to see what
all this great advice was about. just from reading
about your "kiss test" I knew you had figured it out.
I like being hit on by a confident assertive man.
I also like a man who can figure it out that I'm not
interested. Honestly, I will fall over and spread
my legs for any man that does the right things
whether he's extremely attractive or not. I would
never tell him how to do it. I guess that's your job.
Anyway, like I said, I just wanted to thank you.
I personally hope I get hit on in the grocery store
by someone who has read your book!
Thanks,
K.H.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Well, thank you for your letter. I truly appreciate your
honesty and directness.
Most men can't believe that what you're saying could
actually be true, but as we both know, it quite often is.
The interesting thing you say (which I agree with) is:
"I would never tell him how to do it."
In other words, A WOMAN WILL NEVER TEACH A WUSSY BOY WHO
DOESN'T KNOW WHAT TO DO THE SECRETS OF GETTING HER.
Translation for guys: If you don't know what you're doing
when it comes to women, LEARN.
***QUESTION***
Dave,
I have been reading your articles and from other guys
out there trying to improve their macking skills, your
articles and tips are on point on how to be a mack
with the ladies, but I feel that because of a negative
experiences with women in my teenage and college years,
really hold me back from being the mack that is inside
of me along, now in my mid-twenties, I need to get
passed this negative experiences with women, I have no
problem talking to women or having a conversation, but
i don't have my own place, my income is very low at
this moment, this make it even harder for me, could you
give me some advice to get pass this fear that because
i have very little now plus the past experience with
women in the past, plus I live in nyc where women are
into themselves, and a man without his own place, car,
and little money are looked at like "why are you talking
to me, you have nothing to offer me."
M.
nyc
>>>MY COMMENTS:
First of all, YES, there are women who will only talk
to you if you have money...
BUT THIS IS NOT THE RULE... IT'S THE EXCEPTION.
If a woman feels the magical emotion of ATTRACTION, then
it matters not how much money you have.
I used to believe that it was probably only guys who had
nice cars and lots of cash got to go out with all the
women...
But then, as I got to know more and more guys who were
VERY successful with women, I realized that it came down
to their personalities more than anything else... including
looks, height, money, etc.
In fact, MOST of the guys who I've met that are very
successful with women aren't rich at all.
You need to learn how to make women feel ATTRACTION by
using your personality. That's the ticket.
Really.
***QUESTION***
Hi Dave:
I have been reading your material for a few months now.
One of the best things I learned about your work is how
to get e-mail addresses and phone numbers from women. I
have great success at this point. This has also helped
my business.
I need help in two areas that involves taking it to the
next level. I want to meet a nice girl and settle down.
Firstly, how can I figure out which one of these girls
is the BEST for me in terms of personality and chemistry.
My last relationship lasted a year and a half and did not
work because we were always busting each others chops.
Secondly, I think there is a point when we just need to
stop playing games and be nice to these women... What do
you think?
B. NYC
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Well, I'm not the relationship expert, so I'm not going to
address how you should choose a woman to settle down with...
But I will comment on your question of whether or not there
is a point when you should stop "playing games" and "be
nice to these women".
The mindset and techniques that I teach are not my idea of
a "short term technique to get laid". Once you start using
the methods, you'll find that women respond to them on an
ONGOING basis. In other words, if you can keep up the
charming, Cocky and Funny attitude, it will keep a woman
feeling attracted to you FOREVER.
"Nice" is not a word that you want associated with yourself,
in my opinion. Women aren't ATTRACTED to guys who are
"nice".
Be interesting, unpredictable... even thoughtful and

original.
But don't be NICE.
Think about it.
***QUESTION***
Hi Dave,
Well, let me start with my story. I'm average guy, 22
years old. I always had the fear to approach beautiful
women. I'm funny by nature, but only with my friends.
I've totally changed my behavior with women, when I've
read your book. I now meet women on every step (bar,
caffe, library,...), using your C&F approach and a lot
of them are in my bed in a week or so. Now the only
problem at the moment is, that all of those women want a
commitment. But I would love to be just a "sex-buddy";).
Of course, they don't want to hear about that. So after
first sex, when I try to explain to her, what I want,
either she gets mad and I can go ;) or I am the biggest
male egoist... bla bla bla.
So, tell me, is there any way to do that with success?
Tnx again,
B. from Slovenia
>>>MY COMMENTS:
If you're at that stage where you'd like to use your newly
found success to attract only "sex buddies"... and you
don't want the women you date to think of you as their
"boyfriend", then DON'T ACT LIKE ONE.
Don't call more than once or twice a week. Don't stay on
the phone for more than 5 or 10 minutes. Don't see her
more than once or twice a week.
In other words, DON'T ACT LIKE A BOYFRIEND.
I know this sounds rather simple, but think about it...
Women are just as interested in sex as men are.
In my experience, if a woman knows that you're only
interested in sex, she'll be OK with that.
The problems come up when you start calling all the
time, seeing her a lot, and acting like you care for
her...
At this point a woman starts to become emotionally
attached to you. She thinks that you're becoming her
boyfriend.
If you don't want to be a boyfriend, then don't act
like one!
***QUESTION***
Hello,
Your are the man. I have been using your cocky funny
method on girls i already know and see the difference in
the way they act towards me, they seem to definatly be
more interested. My dilemma is that i run out of cocky
comments and little jokes. For eg i went to the coffee shop
yesterday with one of my buddies and there were two cute
girls in front of us who smiled at us when we where in
line and i looked back and smiled but i had no idea what
to say to them or what to make fun of and they got what
the wanted and left. I simply had no idea what funny
comment to make.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Here's the answer...
List the 10 most common situations you find yourself
meeting women in... and list 10 cocky and funny things
to say in each situation.
Next, mentally rehearse each of the comments so you
have them ready!
If you are at the stage where Cocky and Funny doesn't
come "naturally", then you're going to have to PRACTICE.
Why do Michael Jordan and Tiger Woods make their sports
look EASY? Why do they TOTALLY dominate all of the other
players around them?
Practice, of course.
Stop trying to create magic from nothing, and start
practicing. Practice makes magic.
***QUESTION***
Dave,
Because of my job, I am on the road a lot. Lots of
times I like to drive with the windows down, music
blasting and just taking in the sun. Many times I find
myself waiting at a stop light with a good-looking
girl waiting next to me. Some of these girls, we make
eye contact, others just glance over. Sometimes I'll
drive for miles with the same girl to the side of me.
The problem is I never really know what to do next. So
I guess my question to you is this:
1. How do I get her to roll down her window?
2. Once she does, what should I tell her?
I drive an average car (VW Jetta) so I know they're
not looking at that, but I'm just uncertain how to get
her attention.
Thanks for the help.
R. in So Cal
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Oh, you can have a lot of fun with this one.
I have a good friend who can't drive up next to a woman
without flirting. He likes to "waggle his eyebrows" at
every woman he sees.
Next time you're next to a cutie, waggle your brows
and wave. When she smiles, make the old fashioned motion
of rolling down your window to her, and roll down yours.
Finally, take out your cel phone, point to it, and say
"What's your number?"
I've done variations of this myself, and had some great
fun success with it.
***QUESTION***
Hey Dave,
You ARE da man! Although I have not purchased the e-book
yet, I will soon, as I have seen the magic work firsthand,
just from the newsletters I have been getting. Check this
out! About a week ago, I send an email to a totally rad
chick suggesting that we meet for coffee. I used the
movie "You've Got Mail" as part of my "schtick", and
although it was "cute" and "funny," I realized later that
it was actually quite "wussy-ish." After getting NO REPLY
for almost a week, I sent her ANOTHER email, this time
busting her balls a bit by saying, "Well I guess my
dazzling good looks and wicked sense of humor didn't catch
your fancy, eh?" The response was lightning fast and
almost instantaneous!!! She wrote that she had every
intention of returning my email, but she was "out of town"
blah blah blah, and she would meet me for coffee sometime.
I really believe that if I had not sent her that second
email, I never would have gotten a reply to the first one.
Here's the question (and problem): In addition to the "ball
busting" in my second email, I also told her I liked her!
(a big faux pas, I know, but I never expected a reply!) She
had taught a class of which I was a student, and I made a
comment like, "Well I'm probably not the first of your
students to have a crush on the teacher." Now that the
cat's out of the bag, how do I diffuse this damaging
admission? I already sent her a reply email, in which I
poured on the cocky/funny, but I wanted to get your input
and hopefully I made the right choice by my reply.
Thanks Dave!
--C.K.
San Francisco, CA
>>>MY COMMENTS:
lol... the best thing you can do is GO MEET 10 MORE
WOMEN!!!
Duh!
And what are you doing writing to me asking for advice on
how to un-screw-up your situation... and you haven't even

read my book? Go to http://www.doubleyourdating.com/ebook/
NOW and get it. You are doing great, you just need to get
some of the details together.
And as for your teacher, STOP SAYING THAT YOU LIKE HER!
And start acting like the Cocky and Funny guy that make
her respond to you!
***QUESTION***
Dear Dave,
I just started receiving your newsletter. And I was just
curious about the letters that are coming in. Are these
letters from real guys or is it something that 's written
by your staff just to sell your ebook? I can't honestly
believe a book can really do that much for a guy. I get
another newsletter on dating women and this guy doesn't
seem to profess the "cocky" attitude you write about.
Anyway, just to let you know who I am. I am a 50 yr young
man. I'm 5'7" , good shape and health. Have all my hair
and teeth. I'm a nice guy but I want to shed that image but
not be an asshole if you know what I mean. I don't want to
even tell you how long it's been since I've been laid. Can
your book really help a guy like me. I've been going on the
online dating seen but don't always see what I want which
is a sexy young woman. Also, how young can I acceptably go.
Anything you can tell me would be a help.
Sign me,
Not getting enough
>>>MY COMMENTS:
I love letters like this one...
OK, to answer your first question... EVERY SINGLE LETTER
THAT I PRINT IN EVERY SINGLE ONE OF MY NEWSLETTERS IS
REAL. I NEVER INVENT THEM.
I have every one of the originals saved to prove it.
To answer one of your comments of "I can't believe that
a book can really do that much for a guy"...
IT CAN'T. The BOOK isn't what does it.
It's a combination of the material in the book and
actually TAKING ACTION ON IT AND USING IT.
It's taken me YEARS of trial and error... trying just
about everything under the sun to learn the things that
I've put in my book. I really went out there and did
the work. I tried and tested everything I could find.
I think it's the best investment you'll ever make in
your dating life, personally.
And hey, it comes with a simple money-back guarantee:
If you're not 100% satisfied with your purchase, just
email and ask for a refund.... AND YOU CAN KEEP THE
BOOK AND BONUSES FOR YOUR HASSLE.
I want you to write me a success story in the future,
not ask for your money back!
So do yourself a favor, and get it while the gettin's
good...
And if you're reading this right now, and it's time for
YOU to get this part of your life handled... and finally
start enjoying the kind of success with women that you've
only dreamed about it the past, just go to:
http://www.doubleyourdating.com/ebook/
...and download it now.
And I'll talk to you again soon.
Your Friend,
David D.
***If you'd like to send me a Success Story, Question,
or Comment, follow these guidelines***
1) Keep it short and to the point. Two paragraphs max.
2) Tell me what's working for you before you ask your
question. I appreciate all of the "Your stuff is great"
and "I don't need to tell you how well your stuff works"
comments, but the fact is that I DO need to hear all of
the specifics... because this helps other guys to see
what's working in different situations.
3) If you have a Success Story, write "Success Story" in
the subject line of the email. I read these first.
4) At the end of the email, give me your initials and tell
me where you're from.
5) Send it to me at:
SuccessStories@DoubleYourDating.com
Q&A: HOW DO I GET HER TO COME HOME WITH ME?
***QUESTION***
Again, you're da man! I've found a new bar and grill here in
Miami where all of these HOT college girls hang out at. I've
been using you're C & F approach to get the conversation
going with these hot chicks and 9 times out of 10 they fall
for it every time. After about 5 minutes into the
conversation, they get this look on their face like "I can't
believe I've been actually talking to this guy this long". I
mean... look at me, I'm not buffed out or have killer abs,
just your average Joe. But then it gets better, with most
of these girls the conversation gets so funny and cute and
so comfortable that I take it to the next level "The Kissing
Test". That's right! I'm sometimes kissing on the lips
(sometimes with my tongue down their throats) HOT CHICKS in
public! (I used to watch other guys do this and be envious
of them, I used to be a playa-hater) And sometimes it
happens twice or even three times with 2 or three different
girls. This especially happens when I'm freak dancing and
teasing some hot chic. I'm just waiting to take some of
these girls home from this new bar that I've been hanging
out at.
I have just 2 questions for ya...
1) I seem to be more successful after a nice haircut and
trimmed mustache and goa-tee and putting on a nice shirt
for clubbing. I know women look at physical after
personality but let me ask you aren't looks or appearance
still important to enhance the C & F?
2) Once the conversation is comfortable enough to where we
are actually 2 strangers kissing in public (one HOT CHICK
and one Average Joe) what can I say to get her to go home
with me?
Thanks...
V.K.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
You're a very, very bad man.
Kissing women you've just met on the lips?
In public?
You gotta love that.
And you're not rich or handsome? I don't believe it!
Of course, I've seen things like this happen so many
times that I actually DO believe it. In fact, most guys
would be very surprised if they realized just how open
many women are to kissing and "getting physical" when
they meet the right guy.
On to your questions...
ON LOOKS
As far as I'm concerned, LOOKS MATTER.
But interestingly enough, they matter for a different
reason than most guys think.
You see, women are always reading into things. They're
trying to figure out what things MEAN.
If a woman asks you if you have a close relationship
with your mom, she's not making casual conversation... she
wants to get deeper insight into how you handle
relationships. Are you with me?
My personal perspective is that IT'S NOT WHAT YOU'VE GOT,
IT'S HOW YOU USE IT. In other words, it's more important to
take care of yourself than it is to be naturally tall,
handsome, etc.
If you want to take your success with women up a notch or
two, I definitely think that it's a good idea to pay

attention to the personal presentation.
You don't have to go overboard and get plastic surgery,
liposuction, and hair implants, but a little attention to
detail can go a looooong way.
Think about it...
Generally, a stylish haircut doesn't cost any more than
an outdated haircut... but they say two completely different
things about you.
Clothes that fit correctly and flatter your particular
body type don't cost more...
Confident, dominant posture and slow, unhurried movements
don't require any more energy...
But all of these things, especially when combined and
used with other simple ideas can make a HUGE difference.
So to answer your question: Yes, looks can make a
difference to your success. If you have such a strong and
attractive personality that you attract women no matter
what, then you can look however you want. But if you're a
regular guy like me, then do everything you can. I mean,
hey... it really doesn't cost anything to look your best!
And women definitely notice.
ON GETTING WOMEN TO COME HOME WITH YOU
My focus isn't on "getting laid" alone, but I have a few
ideas that can help you.
A good friend once told me that a woman won't really want
to come DIRECTLY home with you. Women like to feel like
they've "been out" with you first.
So, to answer this concern, he goes out with women on
"mini dates" as soon as he meets them.
So, for instance, he might meet a woman at a bar or a
nightclub. Maybe they've had a few drinks together and
danced a few times... and things are going well.
He might suggest that they go to ANOTHER bar that's
close by...
When they leave TOGETHER and arrive at the other bar
TOGETHER they are now "TOGETHER". It creates a completely
different psychological setting and comfort level.
When they first met, they were just two people that
happened to be at the same bar. When they got to the
next bar, they were kind of "out on a date".
To a woman, this is a HUGE difference.
Then, after spending some time at the next bar (it's
late by this point), he'll ask her for a ride home, or
maybe suggest that she come over for a drink.
Because they've now "been out together" she tends to
feel a lot more comfortable coming over.
I usually recommend that guys approach women, get their
email and number, and move on. You can get 5 or 10 emails
and numbers in an evening, and then have dates during the
week (where you don't have to deal with distractions,
competition, etc.).
But if you're at the point where you're confident in your
skills, and this is what you want, then try the technique I
just explained. I know more than one guy that uses it, and
it seems to be a big winner.
And, if you're NOT at the point where you are confident
in your skills, then you need to get my online eBook
"Double Your Dating", and read every single page. It will
teach you all the secrets your mom and dad never told you
about... and show you how to have success with women that
you only dreamed possible.
In my book I talk more about how to improve your
appearance, how to dress, and even what types of colognes
to wear...
Just go to:
http://www.doubleyourdating.com/ebook/
DATING TIP: REVERSE PSYCHOLOGY ATTRACTS WOMEN
We all know what Reverse Psychology is, right?
Try this one on...
I once read that the surgeon general's warning on
cigarette packages may be one of the reasons why cigarettes
are so POPULAR.
Here's the logic: When a person sees that warning that is
telling them that it's dangerous to smoke, they think to
themselves "Hey, I'm living in the fast lane and I can
handle the danger... I'll show everyone how cool I am by
smoking these dangerous cigarettes..."
Interesting idea, isn't it?
Well, it doesn't really matter if you believe that
particular example. What does matter is that you learn
how to use the idea of Reverse Psychology to your
advantage when it comes to your success with women.
Reverse Psychology is powerful because it GOES AGAINST
COMMON LOGIC AND REASONING. Because of this, it's not
usually obvious (unless you make it obvious).
One of my favorite ways to use Reverse Psychology is
in situations with attractive women.
Most guys don't really think about the fact that most
attractive women are being told ALL THE TIME that they are
beautiful, attractive, stunning, etc.
And they don't realize that when they give an attractive
woman a compliment, it often backfires on them because
they are INSTANTLY seen as being the SAME as all the other
guys out there.
We humans like unique, interesting things... we don't like
the same old same old.
Let me ask you: Would you like to eat the same thing every
day for breakfast, lunch, and dinner? I mean, even if you
got to have your very favorite food for all three meals it
would get old very fast.
The same goes here. Let me explain...
Let's say you're standing in line at the bank next to a
stunning woman. What would be the best approach to use to
open a conversation and get an email address, phone number
or a date?
Well, what most guys do is either:
1) Do nothing because they don't know what to do.
2) Say "You're beautiful" just like all the other guys.
3) Say "I'll bet you have a boyfriend, huh?"
Bad, bad, bad.
It would be MUCH better to say "Your shoe is untied" or
even "What time is it?" than any of these common, lame,
predictable comments or questions.
You probably realize that most of your communication is
not the words you use, but the body language and voice
tone that you use.
Well, it's important when you're meeting a woman for the
first time to stay cool, calm, and collected... and to
EVEN DO THINGS THAT SUGGEST THAT YOU'RE NOT INTERESTED.
This will make her say "Hey, this guy isn't trying to
horn in on me... he seems DIFFERENT."
You can then continue to do one of my favorite things of
all time, and say "Hey, you seem nice... like you might
make a nice FRIEND. Give me your number and I'll call
you next week and maybe we can be FRIENDS."
I hope you understand what I'm saying here. By being
unusual and challenging, you immediately separate
yourself from the 'average' guy who just acts all
starstruck.
Now, this is just one example, and there are many
exceptions to this idea. If you look like Brad Pitt you
can say anything you want. And this type of approach
works best on VERY ATTRACTIVE women.
Now that you have the idea, how can you adapt it to
your particular situation? Take some time to think about
it, and I think that you'll realize that you can use
reverse psychology in many different situations to
separate yourself from the crowd.
In my book "Double Your Dating" I dedicate an entire
section describing the exact character traits and
techniques that help to separate you from all the other
guys in the world.

P.S. When you come to my website, make sure to read the
sample section about teasing to learn more about how to
use Reverse Psychology.
MAILBAG: HOW TO AVOID BEING "JUST FRIENDS"
***QUESTION***
I started to talk to this girl that i met when i went out
with
one of my friends' brother. we went down town and hung out.
everything was going good and i got her # by the end of the
night. We hung out the next weekend and went to a club. we
got in the club and she asked for 6 dollars to by her a
drink.
I asked her "what do i get out of it?" and there was the
laugh
and then i decided to give her the money. after the club i
took
her home with my friend and her friend. I asked her for a
Kiss goodbye she gave it to me. Then i told her that i was
goin
to call her the next week because i knew of a party the
following week. After calling her next week i had trouble
getting ahold of her and she didn’t pick up her cell phone.
It
has been about 2 weeks since i have talked to her. And the
weekend that she was suppose to hang out has just passed. Do
u
see a problem in this or if i messed up some where?
thank you
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Yea, as a matter of fact, I do see a problem.
What are you doing giving a woman six bucks for a drink?
You were SOOO right no target when you answered with "What
do
I get out of it?" SHE LOVED IT!
But then you had to go and SCREW IT ALL UP by giving her the
money... ouch.
When she laughed you should have said "Well?"
And WHATEVER she answered with, you should have said:
"SORRY, not good enough... buy your own drink."
STOP TRYING TO BUY ATTENTION FROM WOMEN.
It makes you look like a WUSSY SCHMUCK BOY.
Oh, and will someone remind me to practice being more honest
and direct with people? I sometimes feel that I'm too shy
and don't want to hurt their feelings...
***QUESTION***
David,
I have been trying your cocky and funny stuff it works
like a charm But theres a problem with this one chick that i
like she is a flirt. whenever im around her she always be
flirting with me but the only problem is that i dont know
how to take the next step. if i take the next step im afraid
that shell probably move away. i dont wanna feel like a
dic*. so i wanna know how should i make a move on her and
not getting rejected. (I really need your advice)
-Student in NY, 21 years old
>>>MY COMMENTS:
I feel your pain on this one.
For the most part, men are expected to take ALL THE RISK of
being rejected at EVERY IMPORTANT STEP from the first
meeting
to the bedroom.
And we always know when one of those risky situations is
staring us right between the eyes...
"Should I kiss her? Maybe she's not ready and I'll screw up
ALL of my chances with her."
"Should I call her so soon? What will she think?"
"How should I ask her out?"
...I get it. These are what I call "Critical Moments" or
"Moments Of Truth."
If you don't know how to handle each of them, you're VERY
likely to get hung up, not know what to do, and wind up
not doing ANYTHING to avoid the chance of screwing up.
Of course, not doing anything usually leads to a woman
thinking "He's a Wussy... can't even kiss me."
And on the other side, if you're too aggressive and "fast"
for her you might offend her and scare her off... RIGHT?
My solution is to create "Bridges" to get you from one
Critical Moment to the next... smoothly.
There are things you can do at each step that make it
NATURAL for things to progress.
Try this: Sit down with a piece of paper and write down
ten ways that you can "Take the next step" in any given
situation. Then choose the one or two that you think will
work best, and mentally rehearse them until you can
CLEARLY SEE how they'll work in your mind's eye.
OR, you can download a copy of my eBook "Double Your
Dating". It comes with a bonus booklet called "Bridges"
which contains my favorite ways to take things from
one step to the next...
***QUESTION***
I recently have had several of the same experiences in the
club/bar scene. I'll get a nice conversation going with a
girl. We will have a few drinks, laugh and seem to connect.
This dance goes on for awhile. Out of nowhere the girl
will say that she is tired and leave. What does this mean?
How does a woman communicate that she wants you to leave
with here?
GC, WashDC
>>>MY COMMENTS:
It means that you should STOP doing the following:
1) Having "nice" conversation.
2) Having a few drinks.
3) Laugh and "seem to connect".
And you should START doing the following:
1) Focus on getting emails and phone numbers, not getting
"nice conversation."
2) Avoid "having drinks". Instead have FOCUS (on your
outcome of getting her info).
3) Talk for a minute or two, then tell her that it was
nice meeting her, but you're going to get back to your
friends. Then turn around and say "Hey! Do you have
email?" Take out a pen and have her write it down.
When you're at a club, it's SOOOOO much easier to get
10 emails and numbers, then follow up later than to try
to land the big fish that night. Once you're the superduper-
mack-daddy-from-hell you can go back to chat and
drinks... but for now get the info!
You'll find that things work a lot better when you're
having a conversation with her ALONE over a cup of tea
rather than in a loud bar full of sexually frustrated,
drunk men who want to show off and fight over women.
***QUESTION***
Hi Dave,
After reading your emails for a few months. I decided
to go the whole hog and buy your book. I have had some
success, after reading your book. I have come over
most of my fear about talking to woman. I did get one
girl's number, but it was a message service. I tried
calling her a few times. But never got hold of her. I
have also just gone to the local bar, with the idea:
"Ok i am not looking for a girlfriend, i am just going
to have a good time. Be cocky and funny..." so far i am
getting mixed reactions. So i have a couple of questions.
1) With the girl, who gave me her message service

number and situations like this how many time would
you say call. Before you say she is not interested -
Next. ( I did leave cocky funny messages )
2) The area i live in, the girls always wanting to
know my age. As per-book. I have tried to avoid a
direct answer. How about a cocky funny response, as i
tried a few of my own. But so far nothing works.
Many Thanks,
Nice Guy on the Jedi Road.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
As for the girl who gave you the "message service", you
need to interpret that as follows:
She didn't find you interesting enough to give you her
REAL number. That's OK, you're doing a great job... but
you need to get EMAILS and REAL NUMBERS in the future.
One thing you can do is say "Is this a phone that you
actually answer in person?" If not, then give it back
to her and say "It's OK, give me your number."
When a woman asks your age, just say "Old enough to
know better than answer a question like that one...
how old are YOU?"
If they insist, just add 20 to your age and tell them
that. Be serious about it and really bust their balls.
Keep it up, you're probably close to a breakthrough!
***QUESTION***
David, "the Man" Cocky funny works like magic. I was
trying to pick up a former Teacher Assistant of mine at
university for about a year. Sending nice email after
nice email, and getting totally stood up and/or blown
off. So I took the cf to the extreme. "I know you're
scared of meeting such an intelligent charismatic
rockstar like myself, because you'll fall so hopelessly
in love you couldn't take the rejection, fall into
habitual drinking, and eventually kill yourself... but
really its okay I'll treat you like an ass and you'll
hate me, and life will go on" Totally worked, the next
week she met me, and we hit it off really well, I kept up
the cf routine and we've been having a blast together.
My question is last night she really needed someone to
talk to, a lot of personal family issues to deal with.
Of course I lent and ear and in the end she felt a lot
better. But back when I was a wussy I used to do this
for women all the time, and as you can quite well
imagine I was always the 'friend'. Any thoughts?
>>>MY COMMENTS:
This is an AWESOME example of how to be COCKY AND FUNNY!
You're the man. My hero even.
To answer your question...
This is one of those issues that doesn't have a "right"
answer, but in GENERAL it's not a good idea to be the
"girlfriend" early on in the game.
After date number 10 do whatever you want. (In other
words, it's safer to help her with a situation like this
without being unconsciously thought of as "girlfriendman"
later in the relationship. Just don't do it too
often or you'll become a Wuss candidate.)
Here's a good way to deal with "a woman that you're
getting to know who wants help with her problems":
As soon as you hear the "I have a problem and want
someone to talk to about it" tone of voice, IMMEDIATELY
ask "Is this something you want to solve or is it
something you want to just TALK about?"
If she just wants to TALK about it, say "I'll tell you
what, I think that you'd be better off talking to a
girlfriend about this, because I don't want to turn
into an old married couple so soon."
There's a fine line between being a cold human being
and letting her know that you're not her personal
free therapist.
Personal free therapists who "listen" are thought of as
WUSSY-BOY-GIRLIE-MAN-FRIENDS (as you well know)... and
their behavior doen NOT create ATTRACTION.
***QUESTION FROM A WOMAN***
Hi, i'm M. (from Italy: here to visit my family),
I'm 23 college student / waitress; judging by the e-mails
you been sending my brother about picking up women, it
seems as if you know what you're talking about, but being
a women I usually rely on guys just approaching me, but
there's a problem. Although I get my share of guys
approaching me, there is always one that I would have my
eye on that will NOT approach me... this seems to be
happening time and time again. I don't know if you're an
expert on THIS side of the field but I try to get his
attention by going a little closer, but it doesn't seem
to work. This is extremely frustrating to me, if you gave
me any explanation I would be very happy.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Sorry, but I'm only using your email for the benefit of
myself and my MALE readers... lol. (Maybe I'll find it
in my heart to give you some advice after I'm finished
taking ruthless advantage of you...)
This email is very interesting to me because I have a
few friends who are VERY good with women who have
STOPPED APPROACHING WOMEN ALTOGETHER.
That's right, they don't approach women anymore, but
they're AMAZINGLY successful with them.
These guys have taken their skills, personalities, body
language, and communication skills to a level where
women actually want them before they've even spoken!
I'm betting that the men that this 23 year old Italian
college student/waitress is referring to have something
about them that is MORE than just their "looks". (By the
way, if you're reading this right now, please email me
again to confirm this)...
See, women are about ten times better at using body
language to communicate than men.
Next time you're out with a woman, point to a couple
and say "What's going on between them". You won't
believe all the body language she'll point out and
then interpret for you.
The point I'm trying to make here is that you can go
BEYOND just learning techniques to "approach" women.
You can actually learn how to get them to approach
you... really. It's all about body language... and
how you use it to communicate all the time (because
you are, in fact, communicating at all times... you
can't NOT communicate).
And as for you, my poor Italian 23 year old college
student and waitress...
Just walk up to a guy and say "Give me your number...
and MAYBE I'll call you sometime."
***QUESTION***
OK Dave, I have read all these news letters and it
sounds interesting... but, I don't want a girl. I DON'T
WANT A BOY EITHER BY THE WAY! I want a woman! These
tactics seem so juvenile and childish. Something that
a high schooler would be intrigued by. What's in it
for the guy that is not into child's play. Other
useful information is how many megs of memory do I
need to get all the "books"?
gj
>>>MY COMMENTS:
LOL! [That's "laughing out loud" in internet-talk]
What are you doing whining about the techniques before
you've even tried them!?
From your short email I can guess the following:
1) You don't have a lot of success with women.
2) You over-analyse things instead of just going out
there and trying them yourself.
3) You need to download a copy of my book before you
die of no-date-itis (It's less than a meg total, not a
huge file at all). http://www.doubleyourdating.com/ebook/
The concepts work with women of all ages. Will you do
yourself a favor and quit arguing in your mind... and

get out there and TRY IT!
***QUESTION***
I bought the book, and it makes a lot of sense. Would
you give some examples of how an online meeting/conversation
on a personals board might go? I need a little help in the
imagination department.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Sure. As a matter of fact, let me tease you a bit...
In my Los Angeles seminar last month, I included a whole
section on meeting women online (to go along with the
portion
of the seminar where I TAUGHT everyone how to do it)...
I included several examples of things I've done PERSONALLY,
with exact transcripts, profiles, etc. Here's a little piece
of a conversation I had online with a woman awhile back,
right from the workbook:
HER: what do you look like
ME: I'm 4' 11 and I weigh 345
HER: lol, what ever
ME: I have long facial hair and a hairy back too
HER: what do you really look like
ME: Hold a sec.
HER: k
ME: Read your mail
HER: not bad
ME: I don't recall asking for your opinion
...that's a little example of how I communicate with women
online. You need to be EXTREME with the humor online. Really
turn it up. The message you're communicating is "I must be
a pretty confident and interesting guy to say that I'm four
foot eleven and weigh 345..." Get it?
Try being over-the-top Cocky and Funny. It's fun, and it
works
like a charm.
***QUESTION***
hi David
I am an 18 yr old who thinks u are the BOMB. You have
given true Players a voice.. you are the "MESSENGER". I
have been reading your newsletters for over 7 months
now and you are spot on. This is the deal, there is this
really beautiful blonde i have been friends with for a
while now I see her out a lot at clubs(College). she
always wants to dance with me (i am a decent dancer) i
have been cocky funny la la the works but now i am in
trouble, this girl fancies me and i know it, how do i
work it so that i remain in control of the situation
without getting to WUSSY ?
M.N from London
>>>MY COMMENTS:
If you start to feel the INNER WUSS coming out, just
remember
to LEAN BACK. Call less, see her less, and make yourself a
little less available.
Attractive women are used to being approached and pursued
all the time... you need to be different.
Of course, when you're alone with her, you need to take
things
to the next level, and always advance.
But don't turn into a needy, clingy, emotional wreck.
Remember, LEAN BACK when you feel the INNER WUSS coming out.
***QUESTION***
Dave,
First thanks for taking the time to be the # 1 male
to get enough balls to figure out women a little better
to make it easier on the rest of us. I'm 21 yrs.old and
since I got your book i've been steadily increasing my
dates w/college girls at my university. My question
though is: I go to the college bars thurs-sat w/my
buddies and we always talk to as many girls in the bar
as possible. The problem is all the other guys are doin
the same thing. I use your technique to be cocky+funny,
and get a number or e-mail address, but the girls have
talked to so many guys and after all they drink they
don't remember which guy I was even though I made a good
connection. Any tips?
Sincerely,
UD
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Yep, got a great tip for you...
Don't worry about the other guys. They don't matter.
What matters is that you use what you learned in the book
when you FOLLOW UP.
Sending interesting, funny follow-up emails is a KEY to
getting women to meet up with you again.
"Hey, nice meeting you last night. I think that you MIGHT
just be more than an another pretty face... let's get
together for a cup of tea and some stimulating conversation
this week."
Are you with me?
49 out of 50 of the other guys there either won't get her
EMAIL address, won't follow up, won't remember anything
about
the girl, or will send a DUMB-ASS message...
If you do the right things over and over, you will find
success VERY often.
***QUESTION***
Dave,
Thanks, I have more self confidence than ever. I'm meeting
tons of 7's and 8's. When I go out with friends they get
pissed at me for "showing off." I have no problem meeting,
dating, and getting women home. In fact, some of my friends
have nicknamed me the "Pu$$y Patrol." (joke or no joke,
I'll
take it as a compliment)
To everybody out there, Cocky/Funny is the key. BUY THE
BOOK!!!!!
Here's my question. Lately for some reason, I've had a
little difficulty sealing the deal. I've had two 8's in my
bedroom this week (today is friday). Door locked, hot &
heavy. Somehow, I'm batting 0 for 2 this week I keep on
hearing from the girl, "Lets take it slower." and "I don't
want to be that girl." How do I overcome these challenges.
B/c I believe its sort of like the final test that I must
pass. And apparently, I'm failing.
I need help ASAP my Avg is suffering,
"Pu$$y Patrol"
Cincinnati
>>>MY COMMENTS:
OK, when you downloaded my eBook "Double Your Dating" you
also got three bonus reports. One of them was called “Sex
Secrets— How To Turn A Woman On, Satisfy Her In A Big Way,
And Get Her To Do The Things You've Always Wanted”.
In that booklet I describe a sequence for REALLY getting
her aroused... and I mean REALLY.
You need to learn how to build anticipation and then
AMPLIFY it. It's really pretty simple once you're to this
stage... and ANTICIPATION is the key.
Again, read the report. It's the way.
...Well, hasn't this been an interesting one...
As always, if you're just learning about some of my ideas
and you'd like to really start being more successful with
women and dating, you need to read my book. Just go to:
http://www.doubleyourdating.com/ebook/
and download your copy. It's the very best place to start,
and you'll get a great education in how to start meeting
and dating the kinds of women that you've always wanted.
And I'll talk to you again soon.
Your Friend,

David D.
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SHE SAYS: "I LIKE YOU AS A FRIEND"
***QUESTION***
Hello,
My name is O. im 20 years old, living in
Cyprus. Actually in my college i got interested to a
gal.
She was also good with me and many times did
somethings that means, at least for me, she is
interested to me too. Recently I got her mobile number
and i called her the day after it and she talked to me
normally BUT after a few days when i called her again
she did not answered to my call (she didnt pick the
mobile up). then I sent her this SMS:
Without U life is Black not White.Without U the world
has no hope,no light.Without U I cant go left or
right.Without U I lose my sight.THANK U MY GLASSES!
I called her 2 or 3 times after it in 3 days but she
didnot answered again.Then I sent her this SMS:
DAYS R 2 BUSY
HOURS R 2 FAST
SECONDS R 2 FEW
BUT THERE IS ALWAYS TIME 4 ME 2 REMEMBER YOU!
2 days after it I again called her and this time she
didnot pickup the phone as well,So I decided to say
her every thing and tell her the truth and at least I
will know is she really likes me or not,then i sent
her this message:
Hello my A.,I sent you lots of messages BUT you
did not answered to me.Im worry about you,is every
thing all right? I want to tell you a truth...
I like you, in fact I love you. You are always in my
mind,you are everywhere,I never forget you...I REALLY
MISS YOU!
Then, after 2 hours she replyed me with this message:
Hey O. I got all your messages I'm all right .Sorry for not replying.Anyway I want to
tell u that I just want a be your friend.Sorry if I
Gave u the wrong idea, I didn't want u to
misunderstand me
With this message she told me that she doesnot want to
be my girl friend so in reply to her I wrote this(I
said good bye):
Thanks for answering.I hope you be successful in your
life everywhere with anybody and thanks for every
thing 'cause you taught me many things!
I was not expecting any reply from her but she sent
this sms right after my sms:
I enjoy being your friend.I WISH U THE BEST.Have a
nice holiday.Sorry if I made u feel bad:(
did not send her any sms but after 2 days she sent me
this sms, which really made me quite confused:
* * * * *
* * * * * *
*....FRIENDS
are like stars....
you do not ALWAYS SEE
them but you know they
are ALWAYS there!!!
I really need your advise. The girl who did not EVEN
wanted to answer to my calls now sends me such
messages!
Now,I beg you please tell me what does she mean by
these words? and What should I do?
I really loved her but when she told me that she want
just to be my friend,however,it was hard for me to
believed but I accepted it and said goodbye to her
with my last message.But as you can see....!!!!
I need your idea totally,
What do think about her? and IF you suggest me to
continue being her friend What should I do now after
sending that goodbye sms? What should I reply to her
last message,what should I told her? honestly, I still
like her! but I think Im not sure is she playing with
me? and the last question, If she want me just as
friend Am I so important for her that she do not want
to lose me? and Why?
I'm looking forward to hear from you. Please tell me
what do you think about her from her messages.
Very Sincerely Yours,
O.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Even though you live all the way on the other side of
the world from me in Cyprus, I can still feel your pain.
I think that probably every man can identify with the
following sequence:
1) Meet girl.
2) Get along well with girl.
3) Feel attracted to girl and think she is attracted to you.
4) Tell girl that you like her (after getting up the nerve).
5) Girl disappears.
6) Call girl 47 times, but still no response.
7) Finally girl turns up and says "I only like you as a
friend and sorry if I hurt you".
...Ouch. I know it's a bummer, but you might take comfort
knowing that this has happened to me and just about every
guy I know MANY times.
Let me take a shot at explaining what's going on here,
and hopefully help you and the others reading this to avoid
this kind of thing as much as possible in the future.
From my perspective, there are a few main issues going on
here all at once...
1) Women are complex and often illogical (so are men, but in
different ways).
2) Women are attracted to men for reasons that most men
either don't know, don't understand, or won't accept.
3) The way that women communicate isn't always as "direct
and straightforward" as most of us guys would like.
4) It's difficult to un-do one of these situations once it
has reached this point.
5) There are things you can do to avoid this kind of thing
in the future.
So, let's deal with these one at a time as they relate
to your situation...
1) Women are complex and often illogical (so are men, but in
different ways).
Women act on emotion and intuition more than men. They
don't do the "logical" thing as often as men.
Women walk into Starbucks and order a "fat free" cafe
mocha, and then get WHIPPED CREAM on top. No kidding. I
see it all the time...
Women will go through a full closet of clothing trying

to choose something to wear to the supermarket, then
conclude that "there's nothing to wear in here"...
Women spend $200.00 on shoes that are going to be worn
a few times...
Again, man have their bizarre behaviors, and I'm not
trying to "badmouth" women... but in my experience women
are usually not very LOGICAL about things... and they're
ESPECIALLY illogical when it comes to relationships.
Men are perfectly logical. They want to have sex with
everything. Women aren't. They only want to have sex with
men who DON'T want to have sex with them. LOL!
My point is that you have to put your ideas about how
things "should" be OUT OF YOUR MIND. Start a new way of
thinking about things based on REALITY and not LOGIC.
2) Women are attracted to men for reasons that most men
either don't know, don't understand, or won't accept.
As I like to say, "Attraction Isn't A Choice".
We don't think about who we'd like to feel attraction
for, it just happens on it's own in most cases.
But the thing to remember is that ATTRACTION has a
pattern. It's like a combination lock or a puzzle. There
is a way to create it if you know the "recipe". On the
other hand, if you DON'T know the recipe, then you're not
likely to figure it out by trial and error. And the reason
for this -- again -- is because IT'S NOT LOGICAL.
While men are attracted mostly to LOOKS, women are
attracted mostly to PERSONALITY TRAITS.
In your situation, you displayed the personality trait
that I refer to as WUSSY a little too early in the game.
Women generally aren't attracted to men who get too
lovey-dovey and emotional too quickly. There's not mystery
or challenge when you fall in love immediately.
And when you call 31 times a day, it only makes the
problem worse. What you need to do in these situations is
LEAN BACK more and give her some space. Give her room to
think about you and miss you.
3) The way that women communicate isn't always as "direct
and straightforward" as most of us guys would like.
If a woman wants to tell you that she isn't interested in
you in a romantic way, she'll often NOT tell you as her way
of telling you. In other words, she might just disappear for
awhile. Or she might not return calls quickly. Or she might
talk about other guys with you...
Once again, you have to put the concept of pure,
rational LOGIC out of your mind when it comes to the world
of ATTRACTION.
Women are subtle. They read into things and try to
tell you things indirectly. Women don't generally take what
you say at face value. They want to know what everything
REALLY means.
If you meet a girl, and after the first date you say "I
really like you, you're beautiful and I have feelings for
you" they think you said "I'm a Wuss because I fall in love
too quickly".
On the other hand, if you say "Good night, give me a call
sometime" she'll think you said "You were kind of boring,
and if you want to talk to me again you're going to have to
call me".
4) It's difficult to un-do one of these situations once it
has reached this point.
Unfortunately, once a woman has "made up her mind" about
a guy, it's usually VERY difficult to change that mind.
If you're in a situation like this where a woman has
said "I only like you as a friend", then you're best off
going out and meeting some other women, and getting on
with your life IMMEDIATLY! Don't wait. Get on with it.
If you disappear from HER life, then turn up a month
or two later... and you're dating a few other attractive
women... she might see you in a new light.
Jealousy is a VERY powerful motivator to women, and
this is often what it takes to get a woman to see you in
a new light once you've let out your INNER-WUSSY too early
in the game.
Point: Don't try to un-do it. Just get on with your
life and quit obsessing over her.
5) There are things you can do to AVOID this kind of thing
in the future.
The most important step you can take is to LEARN HOW
ATTRACTION WORKS! You need to learn this game so you know
what's happening in future situations... and, most
importantly you know what to do to make women feel attracted
to you from the beginning (and, of course, how to NOT let
your inner WUSS rear its ugly head too often).
As you know, some of my favorite ways to do this are by
being Cocky and Funny, teasing women, busting on them in a
particular way, playing hard to get, etc.
But if you want to learn how ATTRACTION works and to
make it work for YOU, then YOU'RE going to have to go out
and do it. No one else is going to do it for you.
...and if you want to learn all of MY very best secrets
and techniques, then you MUST download a copy of my online
eBook "Double Your Dating". It's jam packed with all of the
things it's taken me literally YEARS to learn about how to
make women feel ATTRACTION for you.
I did the trial-and-error thing. I tried all kinds of
stuff. In fact, I've probably tried more different ideas for
meeting women than anyone I know.
The real shift towards success came when I started making
friends with guys who were very successful with women... and
then watching what they did in person.
I found that these guys did things that THEY WEREN'T EVEN
aware of... things that made women literally pursue THEM. I
then took all of this information, and combined it with the
other things I had learned... I worked like a mad scientist
for a few years on this because I really wanted to get this
area of my life figured out.
Well, as you can imagine, I developed some pretty
amazing techniques for meeting women, getting emails and
phone numbers, taking things to a "physical" level, and
everything in between.
My eBook "Double Your Dating" is the best of the best
of those ideas, all explained in detail. I personally use
every idea, concept, and technique in that book in my own
personal life. It's not a bunch of BS techniques cut
and pasted together.
If you want to really take your success with women to
the next level, then it's a "must read". Just go to:
http://www.doubleyourdating.com/ebook/
...now and download your copy. It's the best possible
investment you can make in your dating future.
And I'll talk to you again soon.
Your Friend,
David D.
DATING TIP: GETTING OVER FEAR OF WOMEN
To me, "Fear Of Women" is a particularly interesting
challenge to me. It's interesting for a few reasons:
1) As men, we're expected to overcome fear, slay dragons,
and generally act tough in the face of those things that
cause us to fear.
2) Men like to act "tough". They don't like to admit that
they need help. Us guys want to do it ourselves. We see
needing help as a sign of weakness, which we think is BAD.
3) When you combine these two things, you get a man who is
afraid of something that he LOGICALLY shouldn't be afraid
of (it doesn't make sense to fear a woman), but who is
unwilling to admit that he has the fear - which leads to a
state of "quiet desperation". It's a trap, and there's no
way out.
And to confuse matters further, we get messages like "Be
more confident" all the time - as if this thing called
"confidence" is the solution to fear (and in this case,
fear of women).
I dealt with this issue personally for several years.
If I was out and saw a woman that I wanted to meet, I
would get instantly nervous and fearful. I had no idea what
to say or do, and it would LOCK ME UP.

I decided that the problem I was dealing with was my "low
confidence", so I set to work to gain more.
I assumed that if I could get more confidence in myself,
that my fear and nervousness would go away, and I would be
able to just walk up and start conversations without any
problem at all.
After reading several books on the topic, and trying all
kinds of things to raise my confidence level, I WAS STILL
HAVING THE PROBLEM.
Around this same time, I was getting to know a lot of
guys who were successful with women. I found something
VERY interesting: Many of the guys who are good with women
still get nervous when they approach them! They have just
learned how to manage that little biological nervousness
and get on with what they want to do in the situation.
This was a major revelation to me.
Just realizing this allowed me to think from a new
perspective. It also made it "all right" for me to go and
approach women, even though I was still getting nervous.
And, by approaching a lot of women, I became very
familiar with the situations, which led to my nervousness
getting less and less...
All of these things led me to a personal realization:
FOR ME, IT WASN'T ABOUT GETTING MORE CONFIDENCE, IT WAS
ABOUT REDUCING MY INSECURITY.
In other words, instead of trying to get this "thing"
called confidence, I started working on eliminating my
personal insecurities.
I began to realize that the reason I was getting
nervous was because at an unconscious level, I was
PERCEIVING that:
-She has the power, I have no power.
-She has what I want, I have nothing she wants.
-She is attractive, I am average.
-I want her, she doesn't even know who I am.
-I will be interrupting her if I start talking.
-I don't deserve a woman like that.
It was all about insecurity, uncertainty, seeing myself
as less than her, and thinking that as an attractive woman
she has no reason to be interested in me.
In my mind, I was always trying to think of some kind
of unique, original thing to say so I would IMPRESS her...
and she could see me as the interesting, creative guy that
I imagined she wanted.
Well, after working on this for a long time, I have come
to the following NEW realizations:
1) The opposite of fear isn't confidence. The opposite of
fear is absence of fear.
2) Confidence can help, but it isn't the only answer to this
particular issue.
3) The MAJOR issue is insecurity. Once a person can get past
their insecurity, they are more free to develop and succeed.
4) The only power a woman has over you is that which you
give her - either on a conscious level or on an unconscious
level.
5) If you have issues with fear, nervousness, insecurity,
etc., it's a good idea to put aside your tough, manly,
"I don't need any help" side, and go find a solution.
ABOUT CONFIDENCE
If you want to go to the extra effort to cultivate actual
CONFIDENCE, then you need to realize something: Confidence
isn't a THING, it's a SKILL and a complex emotional/physical
state that can be learned, which can then be transferred
into
an unconscious state and state of mind.
But there is another side to things...
WATCH OUT with confidence, because humans that become
confident often become intoxicated with their new-found
power, and they over-use or even abuse it. Overconfidence
leads to real arrogance... and to the dark side. So if
you're going to learn how to be confident, learn how to do
it in a way that respects other people, not in a way that
turns them into objects for you to manipulate.
As you learn these skills, don't get addicted to your own
power and let it turn you into a manipulator.
GETTING PAST INSECURITY
So how do you go about getting past insecurity?
Great questions... and I have an exercise for you to use:
1) Go out and talk to 100 women over the next 30 days, and
keep a record of everything that happens. Talk to 3 new
women every day for 30 days.
2) DON'T make any attempts to pursue these women in a
romantic way. In fact, make sure you approach each situation
with the idea that you are NOT going to have any
interactions with the woman ever again.
3) Your only objective when talking to one of these 100
women is to MAKE THEM SMILE. A good friend of mine who goes
by the nickname of "Orion" taught me this. Your goal is to
give each woman the gift of a smile.
4) After making 100 women smile WITHOUT THE POSSIBLITY THAT
ANYTHING ELSE CAN COME IF IT, you will begin to realize that
you DO have something to offer a woman who doesn't know you,
and you'll see evidence that you can give it to her.
5) Keep a journal of all 100 interactions, so you can see
your progress.
EXTRA CREDIT:
Write me an email at: SuccessStories@DoubleYourDating.com
and tell me about your journey. I want to hear your story.
Of course, there are a lot of other things you can do to
eliminate your insecurity. Self-Image exercises, real-world
drills, visualization and affirmation, mentors, and all
kinds
of other great options are out there.
In my eBook "Double Your Dating" I teach some of my own
personal Self-Image exercises and other techniques for
eliminating insecurity. In fact, Chapter 2 is all about
the "inner game" and learning how to overcome some of these
issues. If you haven't downloaded your copy yet, just go to:
http://www.doubleyourdating.com/ebook/
...and get it now. (Of course, it's also jam packed with
techniques for meeting and dating women!)
And I'll talk to you again in a couple of days.
Your Friend,
David D.
THE MAILBAG: GREAT TECHNIQUES FOR MEETING WOMEN
***QUESTION***
Dear David
First of all, although you've probably heard it a million
times - thanks for your work. It's really great stuff. I
have a question for you: Why is it that women like dancing
in night clubs, and many men don't? Is it important that a
guy should be able to dance even if lets say I don't like
dancing. How can one practice C+F attitude (which I love
and
I know works) if everyone has had a lot to drink and it's so
damn noisy & crowded & it's impossible to have a
conversation
with a woman? Also is it true that if you are able to dance
well, that women will be attracted to you?
I myself hate dancing, but every attractive woman I have
dated loved dancing, some of them I think even dancing
provocatively to make me jealous. The strange thing is that
I
have also noticed my mates that can dance don't particularly
get anymore success with women in night clubs than I do. My
female friends tell me that I must learn to dance, but for
what as I don't enjoy it and my mate's that do don't get
lucky.
So please can you explain what it is about dancing that
women
like, and is it worth becoming a good and confident dancer
in
order to get more dates with women and succeed once on those
dates.
Thanks in advance.
A.
A British fan

>>>MY COMMENTS:
OK, sounds like you have two different issues that you're
dealing with:
1) To dance or not to dance.
2) The noise and crowds of nightclubs.
Interestingly, my perspective is that the answer to both
questions is basically the same...
There are some guys that like to go out to nightclubs to
pick up women to take home THAT NIGHT.
Now, most of the guys I know who go out with this objective
don't actually wind up "bringing home babes" as often as
they'd like. In other words, unless this your sole
objective,
and you're an ABSOLUTE PRO, then you might start thinking
about this situation differently.
When I go out to a club with the idea of meeting women, my
main objective to get emails and phone numbers. That's it.
You can start a quick interchange with a woman, get her
email and number, and be done with the whole thing in about
3 or 5 minutes. You can do this all night and wind up with
information from 5 or more women each night you go out.
The interesting thing is that you don't actually have to
even use Cocky and Funny very much if this is your plan.
You can save it for get-togethers over tea, or phone
conversations.
Of course, if you can use your Cocky and Funny attitude,
all the better. But if you're dealing with noise and
crowds, where you may not even be heard, just get the
info!
And as for dancing, if you're getting her info in the
first few minutes, then you won't have to dance, buy her
a drink, or get into a long conversation that you can't
understand. Getting emails and numbers quickly is usually
the best way to go in these situations.
***QUESTION***
Hey Dave, I was just curious, i'm an average man who tells
jokes like crazy to girls, I make tons of people laugh and
friends with everyone. I can talk to a girl in a second but
some are harder then others, How do you get real secrets out
of them, and know what some deep things are about em. So I
am
asking when I go up and make fun of them teasing and being
cocky, what are some more things I should say to get the
conversation rolling and want them to talk to me even more.
If I get a conversation its easy to tell a little joke here
and there.so what are some easy ways to just to get an very
high interesting topic to talk to them about?
Thanks......... D
>>>MY COMMENTS:
First of all, why do you want to know "deep" things about
a girl you've just met? And why do you want to get "real
secrets" about her?
Read my last comments above... just get the info!
You can follow up later, and if you want to know "secrets"
and "deep things", you can work on that later.
By the way, secrets and deep things are best not discussed
early on, unless you're trying to get into a relationship
in 5 minutes.
***QUESTION***
I just wanted to let you know you information is the best
material I ever decided to invest in. I know you told
people that you have tried everything and these techniques
work best, so let me make a comment to any of the skeptics
out there. I have personally invested money in material
which discussed being touchy feely and complementing women
as many times as you can on a first date while making lots
of cheesy smiles to show attraction. I've also purchased
book & tape packages which told me to touch women in
various places while in clubs talking to them, to get them
aroused (I am surprised I didn't get a drink thrown in my
face!), I memorized paragraphs (literally) of things to say
when out with women(once a women told me I seemed false)
and NONE of these get the reaction I get from using the
material in your book. Oddly enough....the only reason I
didn't want to get the double your dating material in the
beginning is because it wasn't as expensive as the other
BS material I wasted so much money on, so I figured it
can't be as good. I am in grad school right now and I
realized after reading your newsletters(which had questions
from the rich to average) that making good money was not
going to give me success with women, and besides I don't
want anyone putting me in the long-term lover withhold sex
category explained in your book anyway.
Since I have been using your techniques I have been seeing
a women that is very attractive and used to date a pro
athlete. She just told me recently (without me asking of
course) that the reason she felt so attracted to me was my
care free, take no crap off her attitude I developed from
your book. She tried to throw a tantrum when we were
leaving a club wanting me to chase her, so I laughed and
told her "when you think you can control your alcohol
maybe you can regain your privileges of talking to me
again!" then I walked off grinning (love it!). She
explained to me later that she was putting me through a
series of test and I was doing things that other guys just
didn't do (by the way....she called ME first thing the next
morning to apologize.) She told me the others just kiss
her ass and try to make her happy. Now I just reread your
book so I remember not to become one of them.
This brings me to my question. I know you don't specialize
in the long term stuff but I would like your opinion. Her
birthday is coming up and I wanted to know what would be
something special I can do without over doing it. Fathers
day just passed (I have a daughter not from her)and she got
me a designer shirt, so I don't want to do anything lame
either. Can you help me.
Thanks,
N.
Texas
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Wow, great job.
It's not often that an attractive woman will actually TELL
you explicitly that she's testing you. You have a gal
there that is unusually open.
I included your email because it's a great example of how
women test men. Most guys FAIL MISERABLY when tested, and
they lose the girl in the process. It's sad, but true.
When a woman tests a man, it's like a blind psychological
experiment. She's doing the testing, but she knows that
she can't TELL you what's going on, because then you'll
know it's a test and not respond authentically.
How else could she find out the TRUE nature of your
character? How else could she find out if you're actually
a strong-willed man with inner power, or just another
actor playing pretend in order to conceal the INNER WUSS?
Think about it.
As for the gift idea...
Women typically love SURPRISES and THOUGHTFUL expressions
of your feelings. As you know, I don't like to comment on
the relationship stages, but if you want to make her see
you as different from other guys, plan a few thoughtful
surprises for her. Think about experiences that she's
always wanted to have, or things she really likes, then
combine together to create a time she won't forget.
It doesn't take money to do this, and it's actually
better if you DON'T spend a lot.
Remember, what I'm talking about here is to be used when
you know a woman and have been dating her for at least
a little while. This is the kind of thing that has the
word "relationship" all over it, and you don't want to
do things like this too soon, or you run the risk of
coming across the wrong way.
[As a side note: I want to re-affirm that even though I
choose not to comment on the "relationship" stage very
often, that doesn't mean that I don't like relationships or
have a problem with the idea. I think that a great
relationship with a great woman can be one of the best
experiences in life... But I also think that to attract a
really amazing woman you need to know what you're doing.
And that's what I focus on: How to be more successful with
women and DATING - not women and RELATIONSHIPS.]
***QUESTION***
Well I got a question here. I have a great resource to
meet women, but I am unsure on how to go about milking it.

I work at a children's museum. Occasionally a group of
some kind would come in, kids camp, YMCA, etc. Well usually
with these groups there are quite a few women my age. They
are usually supervising the children they bring in.
Last time a group came in some women made a point to kino.
Some would brush against me when they walked passed me
even when there was a lot of room on either side of me. Or
if I was in the way they would touch my back rather than
say something. This happens more than often to be a
coincidence.
I have no idea how I should milk this resource. I am
friggin stumped.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Well, if I were you, I think I'd sit down and make a list
of all the kinds of conversations that you could possibly
get into with these women, then create Cocky and Funny
lines for each. Finally, come up with some great ways to
get emails and numbers.
You might say:
"Where did you find time to have all these children?"
...or some other line hinting that these are her own
children.
Then, after a little banter, say:
"You know, I don't usually date women that already
have 27 kids, but give me your email, and maybe we can
talk about it."
You have all kinds of great options. Just think of some
great things to say!
***QUESTION***
David,
I was in a VERY noisy club the other night in Cabo San
Lucas (I'm on vacation) and spotted this babe dancing
alone away from the crowd. I approached her with your,
"Hi! I noticed you over here and thought I'd take a sec
to find out what you might be like... are you friendly?"
with a cocky sort of smile. She warmed up instantly and
conversation flowed into an eventual makeout session
there in the club. It was the first of three successes
I've had in one week... more than I typically had in 6
months before reading your book... so Muchos Gracias!
However, I want to get REALLY good at the Cocky & Funny
(C&F) thing and hone that skill so I come across that
way in ALL of my interactions with women (not just when
I happen to be "on"). Can you recommend some
drills/exercises or some kind of action plan to RAPIDLY
hone this skill in the next couple months? How did you
develop it?
Thanks,
E.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
The book that I always recommend is called "Comedy Writing
Secrets" by Helitzer. It's such a great book, and it has
a bunch of great exercises inside to help you increase
your humor skills. As you're working on it, just think
COCKY and Funny.
I personally developed a lot of my Cocky and Funny skills
by chatting online over instant messenger services with
women. When you use one of these IM programs, it gives you
a chance to think of great things to say, because the
conversation is about 1/5th the speed of normal
conversation. It's great practice, and you can write down
different lines to try, then get online and use them...
with real women, even!
Great job, and keep it up.
***QUESTION***
Hi,
I'll try to keep this short. First of all, your book is
great. Great tips, great guidelines. Second, as a proof
of success, a few nights ago I went out with some friends,
and tried something new, based on your guidelines. I saw
this hot girl at the bar, asking for a drink. And instead
of complimenting her on her great physical looks, I said
hi to her and told her I liked how her unusual belt looked
on her. That's it. And then turned around and walked away.
I didn't even let her talk. Ten seconds later she comes
to where I was with a friend and said to me "the good
thing is that it keeps my pants in their place", and
everything worked from there. We began to talk, etc.
I would have never done that before. I gave it a try, and
the outcome was good. That same night I stayed away from
the usual "you are pretty, blah, blah" and focused on
other things, trying to start a conversation in a C&F way,
and it works better than the usual stuff. I met about 4
girls that night. Got the hot girl's email address.
I also wanted to ask you for advice on something. After
that night's success, last night I went out to a dance
club and this is the scenario. Crowded place, loud music,
pretty girl seated in a table with other friends (guys and
girls). Can't quite assure if good eye contact is being
made because of the club lights. Let's assume there is. I
did notice she looked at me about 3 times. She never leaves
the table, she is seated between her friends (hard to
approach her). I didn't know what to do in order to have
her leave the table to try some talking. This is a major
problem. You can't just go there and approach her in front
of all her friends (can I?) I had to do something! I waited
over an hour to see if she moved, but she didn't. So I
decided to write a message on a napkin and have the waiter
give it to her. I thought this at least would define is she
was interested or not, and then move on to other target if
she wasn't. I wrote something like this: "Since I haven't
been able to run into you apart from your table, I decided
to send you this note..." and then complimented her on a
prop she had, etc, (C&F) I thought that if she was
interested she then would move to the bar, or somewhere
else where we could meet and talk. A few minutes before I
was going to send her the note, she and one of her
girlfriends stepped away from the table. While I was
watching where she was going to stop (I try not to hit on
a girl while she is moving), I realized she was leaving the
place. I thought she might come back because she didn't say
goodbye to her other friends. She never came back. She left
with a girl, but she isn't lesbian or bi either (I know who
she is). So at the end of the night (2 hours later) I
approached one of her girlfriends and asked her to give
the note to the girl (I wrote down my email). I told her I
was going to talk to her and give her the note personally,
but she had left and I couldn't do it. Her friend asked me
"so this message is from who?", I said "the guy with the
black shirt, necklace with a shark tooth, from the table
next to yours". I don't even know if she will remember, or
if she noticed because of the "unconfirmed" eye contact.
I need feedback on this, man. How do you approach a girl
in a scenario like this? What would you have done? I think
what I did is wrong, giving the note to her friend, but what
the hell. We all have to make mistakes to improve on this,
right? Thanks!! Keep up the good work. Waiting for Episode
II of Double your Dating.
R.M. from Miami
>>>MY COMMENTS:
First of all, I admire the hell out of you, because you did
SOMETHING instead of NOTHING. Nice.
Now, as for what to do in a situation like that one...
I have a friend that does something interesting. He'll call
the waiter over, and say "Can you deliver this napkin to
that girl over there? But don't tell her who it's from."
Then,
he'll draw a tic tac toe game, and put an X in one of the
squares. (Always tip the waiter a dollar!)
The napkin almost always comes back, and the game is on...
It's fun, mysterious, and the girl always wants to know
who's playing with her.
I've used this before, and it's great fun.
At some point, depending on whether you're winning or
losing,
you can come over to her table and say something like "Well,
I had to meet my worthy opponent" or "I hope you talk better
than you play" etc.
Also, if a woman gets up and is about to leave, that's a
GREAT time to go get her info!!!
Just walk up and say "Hi, I was going to come talk to you
earlier but I got busy... what's your name? Do you have
email?" Easy. And it's so natural to ask, since she's
obviously on her way out...
***QUESTION***

hey david.
In your last news letter u talked about reverse
psychology.
A couple of days ago (before i got this email on reverse
psychology) i was talking to a friend of mine online (a
girl)
and ive liked her for a while. (shes somewhat of a player
and shes REALLY HOT!!!) when i was talkin to her we got into
a conversation about sex. as we were talkin i told her that
i didnt want to do it w/ her (but i did) and she said y not,
and i said because. she kept on asking me why not, and i
just
said because. so she gave up and quit asking me. so then we
went on w/ our conversation, and a little while later just
right out of the blue she said we'll probably have sex some
time in the future. i said "ha maybe", and left it at that.
we havent done it yet but we do talk about it (just havent
found the time yet) but i plan on doin it soon. so my point
is, the reverse psychology thing really works. and to all u
guys who think david dosnt know what hes talkin about, your
wrong he know exactly what hes talkin about. buy his book!!!
J from IN
>>>MY COMMENTS:
One of the most amazing things you can do when a woman
brings
up the topic of sex is to tease her about it, ask her why
she's bringing it up, and accuse her of having a dirty mind,
etc. It's great!
You must realize that this is one of the very best ways to
tease an attractive woman. They usually love it.
Attractive women often bring up the topic of sex to see if
you're comfortable... or to test you to find out if you'll
get nervous or insecure.
The best thing to do in these situations is accuse her of
trying to get sexual too fast, tell her you're not
interested,
and bust on her. It's all kinds of good fun. And the added
benefit is that it makes her more and more curious about you
and why you don't seem like all the other losers who roll
over and act stupid.
***SUCCESS***
Dave,
Oh my God, I'm gushing...Dave you da man. I showed up at one
of the local bars tonight armed with your info and voila, I
wasn't really trying and still got the phone numbers of two
of the hottest babes, including a girl I've been eyeing for
about a year. MAYBE I'll call her, then again, there's so
many women and so little time. ;-)
Cheers,
I.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Gushing?
Cool. I think.
What else can I say? Nice.
***QUESTION***
Dave,
Thanks for all of the advice. I recently went to Australia
and constantly used your advice. Even on the plane ride
over. I was blessed to be sitting next to a hottie on a 14
hour flight across the Pacific. We started talking and
hitting it off. Lots of chemistry. She pulls out her
scrapbook and I tease her about everything. I come across
some pictures and she keeps looking hotter and hotter and I
keep teasing her about her looks, saying that she must not
travel well, becuase that cannot be her. Then I come across
her in a lepoard bikini. Im thinking, THANK YOU GOD. On the
other page she has word association games and her comment
is P- Bootylicious. So I look at her ass and say, " Im not
so sure about that... youll have to prove something like
that." So she turns her back to me and pulls her pants out
and says "NO look. " My response was, " well, I just dont
know if I have a good angle to make that kind of judgement.
" You know coach seats and all. So the flight just progress
from there. It was like a 10 hour lap dance. I got her
email... of course and home cell. We actually emailed all
over Austrailia except I was going one way and she was
going the other. We actually almost met in one city... She
lives about three hours away from me and will be coming
home in about two weeks. Dave... I need a magic line to
get her to come up and visit me when she gets back! I've
been C/F in all of the emails and she has responded for
the last month, but any suggestions for a winner proposal.
M.
San Francisco
>>>MY COMMENTS:
What are you talking about?!
You need a magic line when you had this hot girl doing
lap dances on a commercial flight for you?
OK, OK, why don't you tell her that you have a BIG
surprise for her, and she needs to come up your way
so you can show it to her.
Then show her the Golden Gate...
...or something.
I and every other man who's been on a long flight seated
between two overweight women with bad breath hate you.
***SUCCESS***
Dave,
I was first a bit reluctant to use your cocky+funny
attitude to attract girls...guys this is perfectly normal
but GET OVER IT!!! THEY LOVE IT!!! And, I'm becoming more
and more aware of it every time I try it.
Now, I had to travel across town today for a summer school
class and while waiting at one of our many long stoplights,
a cute blonde pulled up next to me. As usual, I checked her
out and noticed that she had 5 or 6 pairs of yellow, green,
purple, and pink sunglasses hanging from her mirror. I
yelled at her, "Hey, I like your glasses!!". "Thanks", she
said, "I really...". I then cut her off in mid-sentence and
said, "Yeah, I think my bratty 6-year old sister has a pair
just like those!" Using Dave's Cocky+Funny attitude DID
catch her off-guard but she laughed a good bit. After a bit
of small talk, I asked her for her number and out to lunch.
Now, I have a date next week! THANKS DAVE!!!
Thanks,
D.F. in Indiana
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Oh, nice save!
You are truly starting to get it. Cocky and Funny. Cocky
and Funny. Cocky and Funny.
Repeat after me...
***SUCCESS STORY***
Hey Dave,
First off, I bought your book (read it twice) and think that
there are some excellent tips/ideas included for meeting and
seducing women. I feel that it was well worth the
investment, particularly being that it is matter-of-fact and
right-to-the-point, making it very easy to assimilate the
information.
Now, on to my success story. The reason I'm writing this is
to show guys how a little bit of confidence can do wonders
in
any situation. This happened in my fraternity, before a
party. I was with a few brothers, drinking a few beers and
just hanging out. Low and behold, in walked this beautiful
specimen who was a "friend from home" of one of my bros. I
was sitting on the floor, she was standing up. Normally,
I'd
putter around in my attempts to pick up a babe that was that
incredible. On this fateful day, though, I was in the Zone!
I immediately made eye contact with her, smiled, held the
eye
contact a 'little too long' and winked at her. The effect
that this 7-second process had on her was astounding. She
blushed a little, smiled and gave me this (I'll never
forget)
"take me now" look. I stood up and said "Guy's were going