You're in a bar,

You're in a bar, you're chatting with the cute gal
serving drinks or behind the bar. You're being Cocky
and Funny, busting on her, etc. and she's enjoying your
company. You say "Hey, do you have email?" and she
writes it down for you...
WHAT DO YOU DO?
You could...
1. Sit there and keep talking.
2. Stay and talk to her a few more times.
3. Wait around hoping that you can go home with her.
4. Leave.
So let's do a little critical thinking about this
situation before I comment (or maybe this will be the
comment, we'll see).
If you (1) sit there and keep talking, what's likely
to happen?
In my experience, unless you're the ultimate Mac
Daddy of all time, the only place to go is DOWN.
Think about it... you got her info. You did it.
She's working. She's only going to get busy, which
will probably make the conversation more difficult.
And then there's the risk of saying or doing
something stupid, getting too drunk to make sense,
or just having the interaction go cold.
All in all, you have very little chance of
anything good happening, and a great chance of
having something not-so-good happening.
Doesn't sound like a very good idea to me.
If you (2) stay there in the bar (maybe join friends
that show up), and talk to her a few more times while
ordering drinks, etc. what is likely to happen?
Again, we're dealing with a situation that almost
can't get any BETTER. Remember, she already gave you
the info. Now she might start thinking "Oh, this is
just another loser that hangs out all night and gets
drunk with his buddies... like the other 47 guys who
hit on me."
Or you might say something dumb... or you might
tip her too much or too little and make a strange
impression... or any of a lot of things.
All downside risk, no upside rewards.
If you (3) wait around hoping that you can go
home with her, I think you're REALLY taking your
chances in the situation.
Again, unless you're the ultimate pick-up artist
of all time, you're not likely to be taking home the
bar tender by sitting in front of her and drinking
all night... for the same reasons listed above.
But what if (4) YOU LEFT IMMEDIATELY after getting
her info?
What effect does DISAPPEARING have on an interaction
like this one?
Well, let me ask you: What effect does disappearing
have IN GENERAL on people?
It creates curiosity, mystery, etc. It makes the
other person think "I wonder where he/she had to go so
fast?"
You can also combine this with having something very
INTERESTING to do. For instance, you might say:
"Nice talking to you... I'm going to go meet up with
some friends to have some SERIOUS fun."
This technique of leaving the moment I've gotten a
woman's information has worked WONDERS for me... and for
many guys I know.
The long and the short of it is that if you stick
around after you get the info, you create no tension,
no mystery, and no curiosity.
On the other hand, if you LEAVE IMMEDIATELY, and have
something interesting (even if you don't say what it is)
to go do, then you're seen as busy... the kind of guy
who has a life... someone who is in demand.
Leaving turns up the ATTRACTION. It creates curiosity.
Women are used to guys hanging on, clinging, and
generally NOT having other things to do.
It's something that will INSTANTLY separate you from
other guys, and something that will demonstrate all the
right qualities with a single move.
Remember, you can do things to INCREASE or DECREASE
the ATTRACTION in any given situation. I recommend that
you start thinking of how to increase it as much as you
possibly can, because if a woman feels ATTRACTION, then
almost nothing else matters.
...and if you'd like to learn even more of my personal
secrets, from psychology to specific techniques for all
kind of situations, then I'd recommend that you download
a copy of my online eBook "Double Your Dating". Just go to:
http://www.doubleyourdating.com/ebook/
...for all the details. There are more sample ideas and
techniques on my website, so go check it out!
And I'll talk to you again soon.
Your Friend,
David D.
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If you've seen the classic cult movie "Swingers", then
you probably remember the part where the guys are discussing
how long a guys should wait to call a woman after he's
gotten her phone number.