Well, let me start with my story.

original.
But don't be NICE.
Think about it.
***QUESTION***
Hi Dave,
Well, let me start with my story. I'm average guy, 22
years old. I always had the fear to approach beautiful
women. I'm funny by nature, but only with my friends.
I've totally changed my behavior with women, when I've
read your book. I now meet women on every step (bar,
caffe, library,...), using your C&F approach and a lot
of them are in my bed in a week or so. Now the only
problem at the moment is, that all of those women want a
commitment. But I would love to be just a "sex-buddy";).
Of course, they don't want to hear about that. So after
first sex, when I try to explain to her, what I want,
either she gets mad and I can go ;) or I am the biggest
male egoist... bla bla bla.
So, tell me, is there any way to do that with success?
Tnx again,
B. from Slovenia
>>>MY COMMENTS:
If you're at that stage where you'd like to use your newly
found success to attract only "sex buddies"... and you
don't want the women you date to think of you as their
"boyfriend", then DON'T ACT LIKE ONE.
Don't call more than once or twice a week. Don't stay on
the phone for more than 5 or 10 minutes. Don't see her
more than once or twice a week.
In other words, DON'T ACT LIKE A BOYFRIEND.
I know this sounds rather simple, but think about it...
Women are just as interested in sex as men are.
In my experience, if a woman knows that you're only
interested in sex, she'll be OK with that.
The problems come up when you start calling all the
time, seeing her a lot, and acting like you care for
her...
At this point a woman starts to become emotionally
attached to you. She thinks that you're becoming her
boyfriend.
If you don't want to be a boyfriend, then don't act
like one!
***QUESTION***
Hello,
Your are the man. I have been using your cocky funny
method on girls i already know and see the difference in
the way they act towards me, they seem to definatly be
more interested. My dilemma is that i run out of cocky
comments and little jokes. For eg i went to the coffee shop
yesterday with one of my buddies and there were two cute
girls in front of us who smiled at us when we where in
line and i looked back and smiled but i had no idea what
to say to them or what to make fun of and they got what
the wanted and left. I simply had no idea what funny
comment to make.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Here's the answer...
List the 10 most common situations you find yourself
meeting women in... and list 10 cocky and funny things
to say in each situation.
Next, mentally rehearse each of the comments so you
have them ready!
If you are at the stage where Cocky and Funny doesn't
come "naturally", then you're going to have to PRACTICE.
Why do Michael Jordan and Tiger Woods make their sports
look EASY? Why do they TOTALLY dominate all of the other
players around them?
Practice, of course.
Stop trying to create magic from nothing, and start
practicing. Practice makes magic.
***QUESTION***
Dave,
Because of my job, I am on the road a lot. Lots of
times I like to drive with the windows down, music
blasting and just taking in the sun. Many times I find
myself waiting at a stop light with a good-looking
girl waiting next to me. Some of these girls, we make
eye contact, others just glance over. Sometimes I'll
drive for miles with the same girl to the side of me.
The problem is I never really know what to do next. So
I guess my question to you is this:
1. How do I get her to roll down her window?
2. Once she does, what should I tell her?
I drive an average car (VW Jetta) so I know they're
not looking at that, but I'm just uncertain how to get
her attention.
Thanks for the help.
R. in So Cal
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Oh, you can have a lot of fun with this one.
I have a good friend who can't drive up next to a woman
without flirting. He likes to "waggle his eyebrows" at
every woman he sees.
Next time you're next to a cutie, waggle your brows
and wave. When she smiles, make the old fashioned motion
of rolling down your window to her, and roll down yours.
Finally, take out your cel phone, point to it, and say
"What's your number?"
I've done variations of this myself, and had some great
fun success with it.
***QUESTION***
Hey Dave,
You ARE da man! Although I have not purchased the e-book
yet, I will soon, as I have seen the magic work firsthand,
just from the newsletters I have been getting. Check this
out! About a week ago, I send an email to a totally rad
chick suggesting that we meet for coffee. I used the
movie "You've Got Mail" as part of my "schtick", and
although it was "cute" and "funny," I realized later that
it was actually quite "wussy-ish." After getting NO REPLY
for almost a week, I sent her ANOTHER email, this time
busting her balls a bit by saying, "Well I guess my
dazzling good looks and wicked sense of humor didn't catch
your fancy, eh?" The response was lightning fast and
almost instantaneous!!! She wrote that she had every
intention of returning my email, but she was "out of town"
blah blah blah, and she would meet me for coffee sometime.
I really believe that if I had not sent her that second
email, I never would have gotten a reply to the first one.
Here's the question (and problem): In addition to the "ball
busting" in my second email, I also told her I liked her!
(a big faux pas, I know, but I never expected a reply!) She
had taught a class of which I was a student, and I made a
comment like, "Well I'm probably not the first of your
students to have a crush on the teacher." Now that the
cat's out of the bag, how do I diffuse this damaging
admission? I already sent her a reply email, in which I
poured on the cocky/funny, but I wanted to get your input
and hopefully I made the right choice by my reply.
Thanks Dave!
--C.K.
San Francisco, CA
>>>MY COMMENTS:
lol... the best thing you can do is GO MEET 10 MORE
WOMEN!!!
Duh!
And what are you doing writing to me asking for advice on
how to un-screw-up your situation... and you haven't even