"there's nothing to wear in here"...

to choose something to wear to the supermarket, then
conclude that "there's nothing to wear in here"...
Women spend $200.00 on shoes that are going to be worn
a few times...
Again, man have their bizarre behaviors, and I'm not
trying to "badmouth" women... but in my experience women
are usually not very LOGICAL about things... and they're
ESPECIALLY illogical when it comes to relationships.
Men are perfectly logical. They want to have sex with
everything. Women aren't. They only want to have sex with
men who DON'T want to have sex with them. LOL!
My point is that you have to put your ideas about how
things "should" be OUT OF YOUR MIND. Start a new way of
thinking about things based on REALITY and not LOGIC.
2) Women are attracted to men for reasons that most men
either don't know, don't understand, or won't accept.
As I like to say, "Attraction Isn't A Choice".
We don't think about who we'd like to feel attraction
for, it just happens on it's own in most cases.
But the thing to remember is that ATTRACTION has a
pattern. It's like a combination lock or a puzzle. There
is a way to create it if you know the "recipe". On the
other hand, if you DON'T know the recipe, then you're not
likely to figure it out by trial and error. And the reason
for this -- again -- is because IT'S NOT LOGICAL.
While men are attracted mostly to LOOKS, women are
attracted mostly to PERSONALITY TRAITS.
In your situation, you displayed the personality trait
that I refer to as WUSSY a little too early in the game.
Women generally aren't attracted to men who get too
lovey-dovey and emotional too quickly. There's not mystery
or challenge when you fall in love immediately.
And when you call 31 times a day, it only makes the
problem worse. What you need to do in these situations is
LEAN BACK more and give her some space. Give her room to
think about you and miss you.
3) The way that women communicate isn't always as "direct
and straightforward" as most of us guys would like.
If a woman wants to tell you that she isn't interested in
you in a romantic way, she'll often NOT tell you as her way
of telling you. In other words, she might just disappear for
awhile. Or she might not return calls quickly. Or she might
talk about other guys with you...
Once again, you have to put the concept of pure,
rational LOGIC out of your mind when it comes to the world
of ATTRACTION.
Women are subtle. They read into things and try to
tell you things indirectly. Women don't generally take what
you say at face value. They want to know what everything
REALLY means.
If you meet a girl, and after the first date you say "I
really like you, you're beautiful and I have feelings for
you" they think you said "I'm a Wuss because I fall in love
too quickly".
On the other hand, if you say "Good night, give me a call
sometime" she'll think you said "You were kind of boring,
and if you want to talk to me again you're going to have to
call me".
4) It's difficult to un-do one of these situations once it
has reached this point.
Unfortunately, once a woman has "made up her mind" about
a guy, it's usually VERY difficult to change that mind.
If you're in a situation like this where a woman has
said "I only like you as a friend", then you're best off
going out and meeting some other women, and getting on
with your life IMMEDIATLY! Don't wait. Get on with it.
If you disappear from HER life, then turn up a month
or two later... and you're dating a few other attractive
women... she might see you in a new light.
Jealousy is a VERY powerful motivator to women, and
this is often what it takes to get a woman to see you in
a new light once you've let out your INNER-WUSSY too early
in the game.
Point: Don't try to un-do it. Just get on with your
life and quit obsessing over her.
5) There are things you can do to AVOID this kind of thing
in the future.
The most important step you can take is to LEARN HOW
ATTRACTION WORKS! You need to learn this game so you know
what's happening in future situations... and, most
importantly you know what to do to make women feel attracted
to you from the beginning (and, of course, how to NOT let
your inner WUSS rear its ugly head too often).
As you know, some of my favorite ways to do this are by
being Cocky and Funny, teasing women, busting on them in a
particular way, playing hard to get, etc.
But if you want to learn how ATTRACTION works and to
make it work for YOU, then YOU'RE going to have to go out
and do it. No one else is going to do it for you.
...and if you want to learn all of MY very best secrets
and techniques, then you MUST download a copy of my online
eBook "Double Your Dating". It's jam packed with all of the
things it's taken me literally YEARS to learn about how to
make women feel ATTRACTION for you.
I did the trial-and-error thing. I tried all kinds of
stuff. In fact, I've probably tried more different ideas for
meeting women than anyone I know.
The real shift towards success came when I started making
friends with guys who were very successful with women... and
then watching what they did in person.
I found that these guys did things that THEY WEREN'T EVEN
aware of... things that made women literally pursue THEM. I
then took all of this information, and combined it with the
other things I had learned... I worked like a mad scientist
for a few years on this because I really wanted to get this
area of my life figured out.
Well, as you can imagine, I developed some pretty
amazing techniques for meeting women, getting emails and
phone numbers, taking things to a "physical" level, and
everything in between.
My eBook "Double Your Dating" is the best of the best
of those ideas, all explained in detail. I personally use
every idea, concept, and technique in that book in my own
personal life. It's not a bunch of BS techniques cut
and pasted together.
If you want to really take your success with women to
the next level, then it's a "must read". Just go to:
http://www.doubleyourdating.com/ebook/
...now and download your copy. It's the best possible
investment you can make in your dating future.
And I'll talk to you again soon.
Your Friend,
David D.
DATING TIP: GETTING OVER FEAR OF WOMEN
To me, "Fear Of Women" is a particularly interesting
challenge to me. It's interesting for a few reasons:
1) As men, we're expected to overcome fear, slay dragons,
and generally act tough in the face of those things that
cause us to fear.
2) Men like to act "tough". They don't like to admit that
they need help. Us guys want to do it ourselves. We see
needing help as a sign of weakness, which we think is BAD.
3) When you combine these two things, you get a man who is
afraid of something that he LOGICALLY shouldn't be afraid
of (it doesn't make sense to fear a woman), but who is
unwilling to admit that he has the fear - which leads to a
state of "quiet desperation". It's a trap, and there's no
way out.
And to confuse matters further, we get messages like "Be
more confident" all the time - as if this thing called
"confidence" is the solution to fear (and in this case,
fear of women).
I dealt with this issue personally for several years.
If I was out and saw a woman that I wanted to meet, I
would get instantly nervous and fearful. I had no idea what
to say or do, and it would LOCK ME UP.