Why is it that a woman who is only interested in the funny,

David D.
DATING TIP: SECRETS MOM NEVER TAUGHT YOU
***QUESTION***
Dave,
Why is it that a woman who is only interested in the funny,
cocky and challenging (i.e., interesting) men, later in
life tries to raise sons that are sweet, thoughtful and
"nice"? (i.e., run of the mill)!!
WS
New York
>>>MY COMMENTS:
This is a VERY interesting question, and I'm glad you
emailed to ask it.
I'm going to give you my personal take on this, but
more importantly I'm going to talk about how these kinds
of paradoxes exist right in plain sight all around us...
and how to interpret them so you can increase your own
personal success with women and dating.
So to answer your question first...
I've spent a lot of time researching this topic, and
doing a lot of personal testing to see if I could find
some answers.
Right now, today, on July 13th of 2002 I think that
it goes like this:
"Being Nice" in the way that you're describing, which
I'm going to say encompasses things like giving
compliments, buying gifts, providing food, doing favors,
tolerating emotional manipulation, pretending to be in a
good mood even if you're not, etc. is mostly a SOCIALLY/
CULTURALLY CONSTRUCTED set of rules.
In addition, these are typically very FEMININE things
to do...
So what's a mom in today's culture to teach her son?
Of course... how to be "nice" to girls.
The bottom line is that most of the people walking
around on this planet have NO IDEA how ATTRACTION works,
and therefore will never be able to TEACH another person
how this fabulous process works.
This includes mothers. Mom loved you and wanted the
best for you, she just had no idea how to explain what
makes women feel ATTRACTION. Mom may have gotten the
tingles when she saw Clint Eastwood shooting everyone
and Neil Diamond running around with his sneer, hairy
chest that sock in his jeans... (and that reminds me...
EWWWWWW... your mom is gross, dude)...
But this doesn't mean that she can or would explain
to her boy how to make this happen with other women!
Now let's talk about what we can actually LEARN from
this kind of phenomenon.
The thing that really fascinates me about people is
THEIR ABILITY TO HAVE NO IDEA WHAT'S GOING ON IN PLAIN
SIGHT ALL AROUND THEM, AND EVEN ARGUE VIOLENTLY WHEN
IT'S PRESENTED TO THEM.
I've read some fascinating books about the concept
of "self-deception", and I've come to realize that we
humans have an amazing capacity for not seeing what's
there... to the point where it can be very bad for us.
This mechanism is, of course, a survival mechanism
that helps us to weed out all of the useless information
that's coming in through our senses at any given time,
but it can go overboard, and prevent us from seeing
USEFUL information as well.
Even worse, a lot of our cultural and social
programming is off-base to some degree, which causes
us to see things and interpret them incorrectly when
we do see them.
Finally, humans don't like to change their beliefs
about things. They don't like to admit that they might
be wrong in the first place, and they feel unstable or
insecure when they realize that a fundamental truth
they have held all their life is incorrect.
Lump all of this together, and you have moms who
teach their sons the "proper" way to act and men who
have NO IDEA how to be successful with women.
Wow, I'm really going on an unusually intellectual
rant today! Nice. I feel pretty smart... I think I'll
keep it up...
So what's this information good for?
Well, to start off, I think that it's important in
life to continually question your beliefs about how
things work and what is possible.
I think it's also good to constantly question your
limiting beliefs.
Unfortunately, most people do the opposite... they
question their ability to succeed and they doubt their
own greatness. Most people constantly self-sabotage.
If instead you question your LIMITATIONS and your
LIMITING BELIEFS, and you constantly look with your
own eyes to see if there's something going on that
nobody mentioned to you, then you'll begin to see
things that will blow your mind.
It took me about 4 or 5 years to realize that
ATTRACTION ISN'T A CHOICE. But as soon as I say it,
you can immediately get what I'm talking about, and
maybe even have a profound realization that will
lead to success.
Now, I didn't figure that out by having someone
TELL it to me. I figured it out by questioning the
things I was hearing, and by following my own intuition
that there was a solution to this puzzle called "women
and dating".
So here's an assignment for you:
1) Write down all of the things that SHOULD work when
it comes to making women feel attracted to you. This
might include buying gifts and food, giving constant
compliments, and acting "nice".
2) Write down your own personal experience of what
ACTUALLY HAPPENS when you do these "socially correct
things that mom taught you" with women.
3) Pretend for a moment that everything you've been
taught about women is wrong. Further, pretend that
women are actually wired in REVERSE. If this were
true, what kinds of things would result in a woman
feeling ATTRACTION for a man?
Does this open up some new possibilities for you?
I invite you to question "common sense" and "what
your mother taught you" about women.
I further invite you to come learn some of the
VERY ILLOGICAL, YET INCREDIBLY POWERFUL techniques
that I've learned, developed, refined, and described
in my eBook "Double Your Dating". I've spent YEARS
thinking about this, working on it, and really getting
to the bottom of what makes women feel that magical
feeling called ATTRACTION.
Just go to:
http://www.doubleyourdating.com/ebook/
...now to download it. In my book I also explain in detail
how to overcome negative programming, how to improve your
self image, and the exact steps to go from where you are
to where you want to be with women.
I'll talk to you again soon.
Your Friend,
David D.
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I perfected the art of getting phone numbers a couple of
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