Dear David,

Dear David,
You are the man. I just want to share a little success story
with you. I've been practicing the cocky and funny routine
online and I must say it works like magic. I talked to this
one girl for only an hour, I kept up the cocky and funny
routine the whole time, she asked for my number and called
me
10 minutes later. We arranged a meeting and it went great.
I stayed in character all night and even got her to come
back
to my place. We had a very passionate and heated little
session (no sex but damn close). I can barely remember the
last time I even kissed a girl, but now I think I'm starting
to understand what I was doing wrong for such a long time.
You are absolutely right when you say that it is the
CHARACTER
and not the material that attracts women. This girl
couldn't
get enough. I teased her all night and never let up.
Unfortunately I must have turned into a WUSSY boy at
some
point between the hot and heavy session at my place and when
I dropped her off. I'm not really sure what happened. I'm
thinking maybe I screwed up by calling her the next day.
She
was screening her calls obviously and never called me back.
I waited a week and tried again with a well thought out
message. I thought it was a good message but now that I
think about it, it was cocky but NOT funny. I wasn't
feeling
the character. She messed up my self-esteem and it was
probably obvious in the message. But I'm over it and now I
say FORGET HER, move on to the next one. That's the only
way
to get better, is by learning from our mistakes and making a
game out of it. Because that is all it is to them , A GAME.
We just have to know how to play.
Thanks David. YOU RULE.
C.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
You're OK... you're doing fine. And let me echo a comment
that you made (which came from me, of course), because it's
SOOO important:
"...now I think I'm starting to understand what I was doing
wrong for such a long time. You are absolutely right when
you say that it is the CHARACTER and not the material that
attracts women..."
You MUST get into the right CHARACTER in order to make this
whole male-female-ATTRACTION thing work. You need to play
the ROLE correctly.
In fact, if the CHARACTER is right, you can actually screw
up a lot of the specific technical things (calling too soon,
saying Wuss-Bag things, etc.) and still have great success.
But if the character is WRONG, then you're going to have a
very hard time making things work... even if you are using
ALL of the techniques correctly.
Thanks for your email, that's such an important point.
***QUESTION***
HER: "If you think I'm going to sleep with you, after you've
spent the last couple of hours teasing and taking the
mickey,
think again!"
ME: No answer, just a slight smile... (Six months ago,
SuperWuss would've said "But honey, please... I was only
kidding!")
One hour later, in bed:
HER: "I don't want to just be another one in your harem, you
know!"
ME: No answer, just another slight smile, and a kiss on the
neck. (Six months ago, SuperWuss would've said "But
honey,
you know I really really respect you and love you....")
Five minutes later, her legs are locked around my waist:-)
You know Dave, I'm in an incredibly funny space right now: I
am CONSTANTLY saying to myself "Jeez... Did I just get away
with saying/doing THAT???" LOL I'm having the time of my
life,
and it's all thanks to you. I'd like to meet you in person
one
day, and shake your hand!
Anyway, my question: Every guy's been in this situation,
you're walking out somewhere with a beautiful girl, and some
other guy (or guys) makes a whistle or 'Hey baby' comment to
your girl... What's a good C+F response to this? What I'm
concerned about is using the situation to make the girl MORE
attracted to ME, rather than putting down the guy. Part of
me
wants to tell the guy to butt out and mind his own
business/get his own girl etc. but I'm aware that not only
will this possibly make me look like an insecure, jealous
asshole, but could also get me into a potentially dangerous
situation that would ruin the good evening I have planned.
On
the other hand, I worry that no response at all may look
like
I'm a mouse not a man! I thought about saying to my girl
"Damn! I wish these gays would just leave me alone!", making
out it was ME the guy was hitting on, but I'm not sure if I
want to put the idea I'm gay into her mind LOL. What do you
think?
regards,
R London UK
>>>MY COMMENTS:
GREAT question.
Well, remember, every situation is an opportunity to
INCREASE THE ATTRACTION.
These are great opportunities to position yourself in her
mind in a way that sets you apart from all other guys.
What would most guys do in this situation?
1. Get insecure and jealous.
2. Start a fight.
3. Pull the woman closer.
4. Act intimidated.
Your idea is great... making a joke out of it by suggesting
that the guy is trying to pick you up.