Your stuff makes sense,

help me! Your stuff makes sense, yet it seems impossible
to use. And so, I get all depressed because what you say
makes me feel like a loser. I have zero confidence in
myself and I can't make anyone laugh. I am 20 years old.
I have never had a real girlfriend. I don't have any
friends. My 5 guys I am forced to live with are not
friends (but we get along fine). They all get girls, but
won't help me. They all make me feel like a complete
loser indirectly. Just like you do. Oh, using C&F is
totally unnatural as hell for me, and I could never use it
enough to be very successful. But, I also realize being
the nice guy and buying stuff for women is also unnatural
for me. I NEVER flirt. I NEVER compliment women for any
reason whatsoever. I NEVER buy women gifts. I do, however,
pay for women on dates (which I haven't been on any is 18
months). I can't make myself talk to girls unless I have
a reason other than because I wanna date them. I can't ask
women out on dates. I am convinced I will be rejected, so
I don't even try. Even when I do talk to women, I can't
make it move on to the next level. Women never even become
my friends! They never move beyond acquaintance level. It
just offends me VERY much that you won't even attempt to
give ME personal advice!
>>>MY COMMENTS:
I'm going to use my psychic powers to guess the correct
spelling of your name.
Keep in mind, I don't even know your name, so getting
the spelling correct could be considered to be basically
impossible.
Oh, I'm getting something...
W...
U...
S...
S...
Y...
Wow, what an unusual name. I don't recall ever meeting a
guy with that name before.
Oh, wait a minute... maybe I HAVE met a guy or two with
that name.
Hey, in fact, I've met a LOT of guys with names like
yours.
OK, enough of the obvious. Let's talk action.
You really need to get over your victim mentality, man.
Read some self-help books, do some visualization and
affirmation exercises... maybe go to a seminar or ten.
Before you're going to have ANY success with women,
you're going to need to overcome your negative view of
reality and life.
Women HATE all of the qualities you're demonstrating
right now. Qualities like:
-Negativity
-Pessimism
-Whiny-ness
-Victim Minded
Get the picture?
I'm giving you some tough love here, but you sound like
you really need it. Women (and people in general) don't
want to help those who whine and complain. Start working
on yourself, and keep going until you begin to find
techniques that make you feel more secure, stable and
self-sufficient.
It's probably going to take a pretty big commitment, but
I believe that anyone can get to the next level if they
really want to.
***COMMENT***
Dear Dave:
I've noticed a lot of emails lately (and I hear this from
my friends all the time): "This stuff is great, and it
attracts women, but when do you just get to be yourself?"
You reply to these emails something like this: "Never.
Make the C&F changes permanent." My contribution is an
analogy that might help the guys who resist this advice
see the error of your ways:
Let's say that you meet a beautiful, intelligent, and
above all, SEXY woman. You start going out with her and
loving it. Suddenly, though, as she gets comfortable with
the relationship, she stops dressing sexy and wears only
jogging outfits. She stops working and starts over-eating;
soon she's fat. To top this off, she doesn't feel the need
to "impress" you anymore and frankly talks about her
health problems, etc. (her conversations begin to get
annoying). She even farts and belches around you.
The point of this is, the things that were attracting you
to her all stopped as she got comfortable with the
relationship. She feels so "comfortable" that she doesn't
feel the need to exert any effort in keeping you attracted.
See the parallel? It's obvious to me, but let me explain
for the benefit of the thick-headed: When you stop doing
the things that attracted her to you, you are exactly
like the hottie that lets herself go. The degree to which
you "let yourself go" will determine whether or not she
dumps you or starts cheating on you.
Hope this helps.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
You know, I think I'm going to hire all the guys who wrote
in this week and just let them write these newsletters
from now on.
What do you say?
Your analogy is great. I wish I would have said that.
***QUESTION
Dave,
First, I have purchased your "double your dating" from your
website. Your book and extra's have enriched my life.
I had a beautiful woman sit down next to me on the train on
my ride into work. I could feel she was interested but I
was scared. I didn't want to make an obvious come on with
so many people around. So I did nothing and missed an
opportunity to meet an ultra beautiful woman. How can I
prevent this from happening in the future? How can I
discreetly approach a woman in this situation? I'm not
interested in becoming comic entertainment for the morning