GETTING PHONE NUMBERS ALONE DOESNT'T EQUAL SUCCESS.

GETTING PHONE NUMBERS ALONE DOESNT'T EQUAL SUCCESS.
You see, women have many different reasons for giving out
their phone numbers. Some love the attention of having a lot
of men call them. Some like to turn guys down. Some are
actually interested. But the universal feedback that I get
from men, and in my personal experience, women act different
on the phone than they do in person.
When you call a woman for the first time, she'll often
start acting stand offish or even worse, just plain rude.
It's
almost like she's a different person than the one you met.
I've found that getting an EMAIL address is not only
easier, but it gets more positive responses later on. It's
almost as if women appreciate it that you've taken the time
to
think about what you're going to say when you write an email
to them, and they think of you more like someone they know.
The other benefit of email is that it can be written and
answered anytime.
If you call, you have to actually reach them. But an
email
can be answered anytime. And I've found that emails are
answered FAR more often than voicemail messages.
HERE'S THE HOW TO:
After I've talked to a woman for about 3 or 4 minutes,
I'll often say something like "Well, it was nice meeting
you.
I'm going to get back to my friends."
They usually don't know what to do, as they're used to
guys
clinging to them. Most of the time, they say "It was nice
meeting you too..." Then, just as I'm turning to walk away,
and we kind of disconnect, I turn back and say "HEY! Do you
have email?"
The "HEY!" is a bit surprising, and "Do you have email"
is non-threatening. In fact, I'm technically asking her if
she HAS email, not if she'll GIVE IT TO ME.
If she says "yes," I take out a pen and paper and say
"Great, write it down for me" and I have her write it down.
(This is great, as I just treat the 'yes' that they
give me as a yes to get it from them as well. And they've
almost ALL gone along with it so far) Then AS SHE'S IN THE
MIDDLE OF WRITING, I say "Write your number down there
too."
When you ask for email, it's very low risk for a woman,
so she'll think "Fine, I'll do that." Most women will give
out
an email address without thinking about it, because they
know
that they can choose later to just not answer.
The magic of asking them to write their phone number down
WHILE they're in the middle of writing down their email is
all about the psychology of human behavior.
She's already mentally said "OK, I'll give you my email
address"... and she's in the middle of writing it down. When
you say "And just write your number down there too" it's
only
NATURAL to just write it.
In other words, it's a MUCH smaller step than giving out
the phone number all by itself. It took me a LONG time to
figure out this simple move, but it works like magic! You
will have women writing their phone numbers down without
even
thinking twice.
Here's a great add-on to make sure you're getting a real
phone number and not a pager or voicemail:
As she's writing down her phone number I say "Is this a
number that you actually answer?" If she looks at me and
hesitates, or says that it's her "voicemail or pager
number,"
then I say "Look, write your real number down. It's going to
be OK, I'll only call you nine times a day..." They laugh
and usually give me their real number.
Now, if she answers my first question and says "No, I
don't have email" then I bust on them and say "Well, do you
have electricity?" This is a GREAT opportunity to use humor.
Then I say "Well, OK then… I like email better, but I'll
take your regular phone number. It's so damn hard to reach
people on the phone these days."
Just realize that all you have to do is ask.
Like I said, I've tried all kinds of things. And I've
gotten hundreds of phone numbers. And I use this exact
sequence every time I talk to a woman and I want to get her
phone number. I've gotten to the point where I can often do
this in a minute or two - no kidding!
Now that you know the sequence, write it down with the
words and the steps, and rehearse it in your mind over and
over until you know exactly what to say for each step and
each response.
Many guys have asked me "But what do I tell her as a
reason why I want her number or email?" I've never had a
woman ask me. If you ask, and they give it, then she knows
why you asked. If she doesn't give it to you, then she also
knew why you asked.
Just assume that this is the case.
If you ask every time, and you do it in a smooth,
assuming, calm way, you'll get a lot of emails and phone
numbers.
Note: Carry a pen on you at all times. I prefer the
Fisher Space Pen (chrome) because it's small, classy, and
women love it!
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Keep your eye open for your next dating tip.
Your Friend,
David D.
www.doubleyourdating.com
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***QUESTION***
Dave,
When I first started reading your advice, I felt that they
were wildly off base. All my prior success had been as what
you would consider a "wuss". However, curiosity drove me to
try out your techniques and I found they increased my dating
considerably. I went from only occasional dates, to having
3-4 dates every weekend. However, I have two questions
which I have not found the answer to in your book.
1. How long should I keep up the cocky/funny attitude?
It's really unnatural for me, and I'm not sure when I should
drop it, and show a girl my true self.
2. I have a good friend who I've been friends with for a
while. I guess she would consider me a "girlfriend-man"
I'd
always be the one with the sympathetic ear, listening to her
problems and such. Is it possible, after getting this deep
in the "friend-zone" to become more than friends with her?
I don't want to risk ruining a friendship, but I've very
interested in dating her. How do I do it?
Thanks,
S.S., Maine
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