***QUESTION***

***QUESTION***
Okay....i bought the book, i read it and re-read it and
re-read it. I had always been funny but a lot had been
self-deprecating or witticisms that were hysterical but
required women to think and make the leap from A to B. So,
based on your book, I changed my ways. I added "C" to my
"F". Now, I'm a Lindy Hop Swing dancer. I dance at the
clubs 4 times a week. go to workshops. I own instructional
tapes. I listen to swing music constantly. I even dream
I'm dancing sometimes. So, when I go to a club i'm not
just going to meet women but also because i love dancing
Lindy Hop. IT WORKS!!!
Before I ask my question, here's my success story. After
reading all the e-mails over and over and the book over and
over, i made it a point to be C&F even when i'm not
interested. One girl I asked to dance at a club said she
had to leave but "do you come here often?" she asked. I
told her that we only knew each other for a few minutes and
ALREADY she was trying to pick me up. I didn't mind, i
said, but she should use a more original line. Another girl
I danced with messed up as she was dancing and her hand
touched my ass by mistake. I spent the rest of the dance
accusing her of trying to grab my ass because she liked it.
(her e-mail i got but i messed up the next bridge). But the
clincher in my mind that C&F works is this: I take a 3-hour
dance class once a week and it usually has the same people.
One is this cute 19-year old. She's not my type and i'm
not interested, but i still employ C&F whenever i see her,
for practice. Well, this week out of the blue she says "I
was talking to [Bob] about you the other day." Oh yeah?
what did you say? i ask "I told him I like you because
you're a smart-ass." My jaw practically dropped. I
maintained composure while on the inside i was screaming
"HOLY SH**!! THIS STUFF WORKS". "smart-ass" was obviously
"C&F". So, thank you and i plan to continue using this.
MY QUESTION!! So, here's the thing. Dancing this much is a
blessing and a curse. A lot of women want to dance with me,
but they ONLY want to dance (i've gotten quite good). Plus,
i'm into the dancing so i'll dance with several different
women a night, and most likely each women multiple times.
How do I use C&F in these situations when A) Unless it's a
slow song, you don't really have the opp to talk DURING the
dance B) If I get an e-mail/number, i'm still gonna be at
the club the rest of the night. Do I ask her to dance
again? or do i ignore her? What if she asks ME to dance
again? C) If I ignore her, i'm gonna see her as i walk
around looking for dance partners throughout the night, do
i say anything as we pass by? do i even smile at her?
D) Can I use C&F on multiple women throughout the night
and get more than one e-mail or is that a bad idea? If
dancing were a means to an end for me, it might be easier,
but i'm really into this. My job is just a means for me
to be able to go dancing (that's how into it i am).
I know that I've got a potential gold mine at my feet
since I dance. I've heard that "if you can dance you can
get any woman you want." Well, I couldn't, but i'm only
now starting to see how i can thanks to C&F. But it's only
a beginning. Please help!!
By the way, i'll see you at your next LA seminar!!!
G.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
You've gone over your one question limit, but I'm going to
give you a great idea anyway.
First off, making jokes about a woman trying to pick you
up, not being that easy, being offended that she used such
a cheap line, etc. is GREAT stuff.
Here's the idea:
If I were you, I'd learn how to be Cocky and Funny WITHOUT
SAYING A WORD. If you're a great dancer, then I'm SURE you
can come up with 100 ways.
Maybe you could notice mistakes that a girl is making, then
imitate them over and over while keeping a look on your
face of "Look at how cool I am".
Maybe you could incorporate some bizarre dance steps into
a dance, then insinuate that she's dancing that way.
One thing I like to do is MIRROR a woman, then EXAGGERATE
some part of what she's doing.
If she has good posture, I might sit up EXTRA straight
and say "You're slumping".
Cocky and Funny isn't just a verbal thing.
Ohhh... now I'm letting the cat out of the bag.
By the way, if you're reading this right now and you've
got some good examples of non-verbal Cocky and Funny,
write me an email. Send it to me at:
SuccessStories@DoubleYourDating.com
***QUESTION***
Dave,
Your insight into women and how to attract them is dead-on.
Being cocky and funny works. Upon adopting your approach,
my dating life improved dramatically: I went from dating one
woman last year to dating 10 women in three months at the
beginning of this year.
While dating is fun, like most guys, I eventually find one
that I like and want to pursue it further, i.e. become more
serious. The problem I've discovered is that a lot of
women in the age group I date (27-33) are resistant to this
due to the residual pain they carry with them (the
proverbial "baggage") from previous failed relationships or
marriages. Rather than take a risk by pursuing a
relationship, they prevent it from progressing any further
to avoid any emotional pain that might result if it fails.
Is this a common problem men my age (late '20s, early '30s)
experience (and should continue to expect to experience in
the dating world), or am I just being a wuss and need to
get over it by dating younger women with less baggage? Is
there a way to employ the C&F routine to MAKE these women
overcome their indecision and want to be with you?
LOL,