I have an interesting story about an amazing girl i met online...

and we were still talking pretty hot and heavy etc...and
we kept this up for a couple of days and we were supposed
to meet again (to go to a movie) but then she backed out
and said she wanted to slow it down...i kinda figured this
was the end of it and i was feelign pretty shitty (she's
a hot ass stipper for god's sake!) and i was kinda
confused and then she emails me the next day...i hold off
responding for a sec cause i'm confused and then she sends
me another email late at night telling me to call her so i
did and she tells me how she wants to "cuddle" etc... and
i'm kinda acting a little distant maybe cause i'm confused
about what the hell she wants ands then all of a sudden
she turns on me like that and doesn't want anything to do
with me whatsoever... and now she won't respond to my
emails or calls...what the hell can i do to get her again
cause i totally want to party with her!
Thanks man... help me!
want more of her
>>>MY COMMENTS:
OK, your problem is simple.
YOU SPENT TOO MUCH TIME TALKING TO HER AT THE BEGINNING.
As a rule of thumb, when you first meet a girl, DON'T
talk to her more than once or twice a week, and don't
SEE her more than once or twice a week.
If you're chatting online, don't chat more than a couple
of times a week.
And DON'T talk for hours and hours and hours in ANY of
these situations!
Why not?
Because when you talk for hours, you start talking about
all kinds of WUSSY things.
Do yourself a favor next time...
After a woman comes over to your house and gets physical
with you, LEAN BACK.
Don't call the next day and talk hot and heavy. Give it
some time and space.
Here's one of my favorite quotes:
"Give her the gift of missing you."
I love that quote.
I wrote it.
OK, I think you get the point. Stop acting like a needy
WUSS BOY, and start leaning back, being unpredictable,
and GIVE HER THE GIFT OF MISSING YOU when you're in a
similar situation in the future.
***QUESTION***
David,
Hi i have been reading your newsletter for about two months
now and i really wish i could tell you that i've had
outstanding success with the cocky and funny approach but
im afraid i cant. You see i just cant even picture myself
seeing a gorgeous woman somewhere and just starting some
kind of conversation with her out of no where like that. I
get really nervous around women and never know what to say
to them. And i just can't help but see myself get rejected
by her and all the different ways she can turn me down.
Any suggestions?
M. from AZ
>>>MY COMMENTS:
I have a question for you...
"What if you COULD picture yourself seeing a gorgeous woman
somewhere and just starting some kind of conversation with
her out of nowhere?"
Is the problem that you can't picture it? Or is the problem
that you won't just DO IT?
I mean, what do you think is going to happen?
Do you think that gorgeous women have magical powers and
she might turn you into a frog or something?
Here, try this:
Next time you see a beautiful woman, walk over and say:
"Excuse me, can I ask you a question? I'm trying to
overcome my shyness, and it's my goal to ask five women
today what it takes for them to feel attracted to a man.
Do you prefer it when guys try to BUY your attention with
gifts and food, or do you prefer it when a guy teases you,
makes fun, makes you laugh, and keeps you guessing about
what's going to come next?"
Don't even worry about getting emails, numbers, and dates.
Just go ask that question.
As a homework assignment, go ask 100 women this question.
You'll see that women aren't so scary after all, and you
will get some really interesting answers from them.
Now, I don't usually advise asking women for advice on
women... but in this case I'm not telling you to ask
for advice for advice's sake. You're overcoming shyness
at the same time.
After you ask the first 50, I want you to try something
new...
After you ask the question, and she answers, I want you
to say "Because, you know, I'm really tired of women
just treating me like a piece of meat... like some kind
of sex symbol or something. I need to understand what
I can do so a woman likes me for WHO I AM!" ...in a
serious, sarcastic, Cocky and Funny way.
Watch the responses you get. You'll have fun.
***QUESTION***
Hello David. Well, let me put it this way: I got your
book, and it made a HUGE impact on my life. I'd like to
assure anyone who doubts you that you are not full of crap,
you really know your stuff. Anyway, I have a little
problem, and since I feel you've mastered the understanding
of the minds of women, I need your help. First of all,
I've always had a razor-sharp wit, but I didn't have the
confidence to show it to most women, and instead felt sorry
for myself that women never got to see the real me. Now,
once I was introduced to you and learned the whole cocky
routine and seen it's effects, my confidence is sky high.
I charm women like you wouldn't believe... while I was
happy with this at first, it seems that I have gotten TOO
good with women. I know I sound awfully full of myself,
but... here's the scoop. When I use my dazzling charm
combined with cockiness, new women that i meet CAVE IN to
me and become my WHIPPED SLAVE after a short period of time.
They lose their sassy and fun personalities, and become
obsessed slaves that would do anything to please me. while
its sometimes flattering, overall I do not like this. Don't
get me wrong, I want them to want me, but I DON'T want them
to become my drooling little groupies who think about me
when they get up and eat breakfast and are still thinking
about me when they get under the covers at night... it
seems
like their obsessions sap their personality. What I was
wondering was whether or not you knew a SPECIFIC BEHAVIOR or
trait that i may be amplifying that causes women to react
this
way... I want to TONE DOWN whatever it is that's getting
them
to drop their religion and worship me.. any help
appreciated.
by the way, i am NOT EVEN EXAGGERATING, i really do see
myself as TOO sexy and its ANNOYING.. i want women to be
challenging again! (P.S: while im not ugly, i sure as hell
am not the type of guy that girls whisper and giggle about
upon first glance... so don’t attribute any of this to my
looks)
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Wow, another sad, sad story. Makes me weep.
Women chasing you around like groupies and acting like
slaves... you poor thing.
Well, I do actually know what you're talking about.
Here's the deal...
Most women are used to being in CONTROL of men. And when
a guy like you shows up and uses his magical powers of
COCKY AND FUNNY, they are taken off guard.
You are pressing the ATTRACTION button inside of a
woman, which has an interesting side effect when done
with Cocky and Funny: