Much of your information is insightful,

Thanks for your email.
***COMMENT***
Hello David,
Much of your information is insightful, and educational.
However, I think the heart of the matter in regards to men's
fear of women, is the fact that men see what attracts them
in a woman, only it requires a theatrical performance that
puts them on stage. The real fear is a result of one's own
inner psychology working against their conscious brain, that
if the verbal presentation isn't met with approval then the
result is personal rejection by a woman who meant so much in
one's own mind, which is taken personally due to it's sexual
ramifications, an absence of sex. Comedians call it shtick,
and without a well rehearsed comedic routine, then there
indeed is something to be nervous about. Women are very much
like a rabid dog, keenly smelling fear and able to inflict
personal pain, the key is to approach not only without fear,
but with indifference so as not to get bit with total
rejection. Men are better at dealing with physical scars
than the psychological ones, which take far longer to heal,
and some don't. Unlike a man, women are totally unforgiving,
and every man knows this, and this is the "fulcrum of fear",
knowing we are coming in for the approach without power and
it must be done to her unknown mental terrain... right now.
The difficulty for women is the fact that society places
beauty on a pedestal, which automatically inflates their ego
far beyond what they can handle. Pretty girls get off on
rejecting men, it feeds the ego quite nicely. It's the
equivalent of the school bully beating up all the other
boys,
only women do it psychologically using their beauty and then
rejection. And unlike the physical presence of a battered
victim, the feelings are invisible and go unnoticed, without
any regard for the psychological result. Absence of fear
(calmness)and indifference (self control)eliminates a
woman's
psychological control. This power is what they are born with
if attractive. Combine this with a biological hormonal
imbalance and you have... a beautiful rabid bad dog. They
are also in a unique circumstance that is making them more
dysfunctional with the progression of time especially in the
United States. They are gaining more power in the world as
playing the role that men have (psychological strength), and
yet are to be receptive sexually to a man's advances
(psychological submissive). This is a total dichotomy whose
result is confusion in their own minds and rejection feeds
the new power that fuels the immediate psychological
satisfaction through self gratification. This is far more
prevalent in the industrial countries than in the third
world, where a woman's naked breast is a thing of beauty
that is not even noticed. Here in the U.S. a nude breast is
taboo, and met with nervous arrest. Thus the difficulty in
attempting to communicate with the opposite sex is three
dimensional, being biological, psychological, and cultural.
Did I mention their interests are the opposite of most men?
Don't get me started....
T.W- the Phoenix
P.S. Me....well, I burned out about five years ago, and hope
to eventually rise from the ashes to re-enter the
psychological arena and do battle once again.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Phew. That was kind of intense.
Clearly the words of a guy who's been there.
I would like to comment on one thing. You said something
in the middle that stood out as a gem:
"Absence of fear (calmness) and indifference (self control)
eliminates a woman's psychological control."
This is a profound thought. I think that men everywhere
need to get this idea at a deep level.
I was listening to India Arie's album, which I think is
pretty cool (As Butthead would say "Chickth Dig It").
She has a song on the album called "Back To The Middle".
I think that us guys tend to get too far to one extreme
or the other when it comes to women.
We either see them as "innocent girls" who just need a guy
to be nice, buy them dinner, protect them, etc. in order
to get their love and approval...
Or we see them as cold, hardened, ice-hearted control
freaks who emotionally and psychologically manipulate us.
My experience is that most women fall in the middle of
this range, and they will act differently in different
situations. If you act like a wussy, call 47 times a day,
devote yourself to her, and become a complete emotional
suckerfish, she's likely to get so repulsed that she'll
walk all over your sensitive little feelings with her
stiletto heels.
If you she favors you and becomes emotionally attached,
then you take advantage of her and abuse her emotionally
and psychologically, then you might see the more frail
and weak side.
On the other hand, if you "Come back to the middle" and
cultivate more indifference while lessening your
insecurity, you can bypass a lot of this extreme and
unhealthy stuff.
"Absence of fear (calmness) and indifference (self control)
eliminates a woman's psychological control."
***COMMENT***
I'm not sure whether to thank you or berate you. You may
not realize this, but while you are helping thousands of
clueless guys you are also hurting the entire male
population by raising the bar. The more mentally attractive
guys there are out there, the less attractive they all seem.
If everyone drove a Ferrari, then Ferraris would be as
boring
and commonplace as a cheap Ford, no matter how physically
beautiful the car is. No one wants boring and commonplace.
That's partially why C&F is so attractive to women (As if
you
didn't already know this). Now I know that you're barely
making a dent in the population of wusses out there, but
word
is beginning to spread. You might consider toning down your
marketing or not giving out so many of the info gems. Or
you
may ruin everything you're working for. Can you imagine a
world where wusses are the attractive ones... just because
they're different? The thought makes me shudder. Anyway,
I'd give you a success story but I think I've said enough.
If you start cloning Jedi, then you'll have a clone war on
your hands.
-BJS in Houston