I started to talk to this girl

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MAILBAG: HOW TO AVOID BEING "JUST FRIENDS"
***QUESTION***
I started to talk to this girl that i met when i went out
with
one of my friends' brother. we went down town and hung out.
everything was going good and i got her # by the end of the
night. We hung out the next weekend and went to a club. we
got in the club and she asked for 6 dollars to by her a
drink.
I asked her "what do i get out of it?" and there was the
laugh
and then i decided to give her the money. after the club i
took
her home with my friend and her friend. I asked her for a
Kiss goodbye she gave it to me. Then i told her that i was
goin
to call her the next week because i knew of a party the
following week. After calling her next week i had trouble
getting ahold of her and she didn’t pick up her cell phone.
It
has been about 2 weeks since i have talked to her. And the
weekend that she was suppose to hang out has just passed. Do
u
see a problem in this or if i messed up some where?
thank you
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Yea, as a matter of fact, I do see a problem.
What are you doing giving a woman six bucks for a drink?
You were SOOO right no target when you answered with "What
do
I get out of it?" SHE LOVED IT!
But then you had to go and SCREW IT ALL UP by giving her the
money... ouch.
When she laughed you should have said "Well?"
And WHATEVER she answered with, you should have said:
"SORRY, not good enough... buy your own drink."
STOP TRYING TO BUY ATTENTION FROM WOMEN.
It makes you look like a WUSSY SCHMUCK BOY.
Oh, and will someone remind me to practice being more honest
and direct with people? I sometimes feel that I'm too shy
and don't want to hurt their feelings...
***QUESTION***
David,
I have been trying your cocky and funny stuff it works
like a charm But theres a problem with this one chick that i
like she is a flirt. whenever im around her she always be
flirting with me but the only problem is that i dont know
how to take the next step. if i take the next step im afraid
that shell probably move away. i dont wanna feel like a
dic*. so i wanna know how should i make a move on her and
not getting rejected. (I really need your advice)
-Student in NY, 21 years old
>>>MY COMMENTS:
I feel your pain on this one.
For the most part, men are expected to take ALL THE RISK of
being rejected at EVERY IMPORTANT STEP from the first
meeting
to the bedroom.
And we always know when one of those risky situations is
staring us right between the eyes...
"Should I kiss her? Maybe she's not ready and I'll screw up
ALL of my chances with her."
"Should I call her so soon? What will she think?"
"How should I ask her out?"
...I get it. These are what I call "Critical Moments" or
"Moments Of Truth."
If you don't know how to handle each of them, you're VERY
likely to get hung up, not know what to do, and wind up
not doing ANYTHING to avoid the chance of screwing up.
Of course, not doing anything usually leads to a woman
thinking "He's a Wussy... can't even kiss me."
And on the other side, if you're too aggressive and "fast"
for her you might offend her and scare her off... RIGHT?
My solution is to create "Bridges" to get you from one
Critical Moment to the next... smoothly.
There are things you can do at each step that make it
NATURAL for things to progress.
Try this: Sit down with a piece of paper and write down
ten ways that you can "Take the next step" in any given
situation. Then choose the one or two that you think will
work best, and mentally rehearse them until you can
CLEARLY SEE how they'll work in your mind's eye.
OR, you can download a copy of my eBook "Double Your
Dating". It comes with a bonus booklet called "Bridges"
which contains my favorite ways to take things from
one step to the next...
***QUESTION***
I recently have had several of the same experiences in the
club/bar scene. I'll get a nice conversation going with a
girl. We will have a few drinks, laugh and seem to connect.
This dance goes on for awhile. Out of nowhere the girl
will say that she is tired and leave. What does this mean?
How does a woman communicate that she wants you to leave
with here?
GC, WashDC
>>>MY COMMENTS:
It means that you should STOP doing the following:
1) Having "nice" conversation.
2) Having a few drinks.
3) Laugh and "seem to connect".
And you should START doing the following:
1) Focus on getting emails and phone numbers, not getting
"nice conversation."
2) Avoid "having drinks". Instead have FOCUS (on your
outcome of getting her info).
3) Talk for a minute or two, then tell her that it was
nice meeting her, but you're going to get back to your
friends. Then turn around and say "Hey! Do you have
email?" Take out a pen and have her write it down.
When you're at a club, it's SOOOOO much easier to get
10 emails and numbers, then follow up later than to try
to land the big fish that night. Once you're the superduper-
mack-daddy-from-hell you can go back to chat and
drinks... but for now get the info!
You'll find that things work a lot better when you're
having a conversation with her ALONE over a cup of tea
rather than in a loud bar full of sexually frustrated,
drunk men who want to show off and fight over women.
***QUESTION***
Hi Dave,
After reading your emails for a few months. I decided
to go the whole hog and buy your book. I have had some
success, after reading your book. I have come over
most of my fear about talking to woman. I did get one
girl's number, but it was a message service. I tried
calling her a few times. But never got hold of her. I
have also just gone to the local bar, with the idea:
"Ok i am not looking for a girlfriend, i am just going
to have a good time. Be cocky and funny..." so far i am
getting mixed reactions. So i have a couple of questions.
1) With the girl, who gave me her message service