I think you're working on the wrong outcome.,

If you go out with the specific idea of being rude, crude,
a jerk, etc. I think you're working on the wrong outcome.
I get what you're saying about how this might make you
"numb"
to future rejection...
But I think you'll learn a lot more if you take the approach
of "We're each going to approach 50 women today, and let's
see who can get the most email addresses". Focus on what you
want, not what you don't want.
***QUESTION***
Hey Dave,
First off, I want to thank you for spreading your
wisdom. I bought your book two weeks ago after
reading several of your newsletters, and it was the
answer to most of my prayers. I've gone from dating
a girl maybe two women in a year, to dating 3 women
at once, all 3 call me every day, and this was before
I even bought the book, just from the advice from
your emails!! You have definitely "Doubled" my
dating!!
My question, one girl in particular I find really
attractive and the most challenging (which I like)
still has a "Control Freak" boyfriend, with whom I
think she’s afraid to break up with. He's the kind of
guy that would threaten to kill himself if she were
to leave him, but basically uses her for sex, and
controls most aspects of her life. Should I just
stop talking to her? Or keep bustin her balls about
why she’s still with him? Because I find myself
feeling some sort of sympathy for her, and its
affecting my "cocky and funny" routine (with her
at least).
Thanks for your help!!
C. from MD
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Let me ask you a question...
Why in the world would you want to be with a woman who has
a "suicidal control freak" boyfriend fetish?
When you meet a woman like this, the warning bells should
be going off in your head... "Danger Will Robinson, Danger!"
Do yourself a HUGE favor. Find a woman who's interesting
and "challenging" like her that DOESN'T have a psycho
neurotic boyfriend... and don't turn into one.
***COMMENT FROM A WOMAN***
I just wanted to say thank you, from all the
women out here in single land. Out of curiosity, I
clicked on a link from [another website] to see what
all this great advice was about. just from reading
about your "kiss test" I knew you had figured it out.
I like being hit on by a confident assertive man.
I also like a man who can figure it out that I'm not
interested. Honestly, I will fall over and spread
my legs for any man that does the right things
whether he's extremely attractive or not. I would
never tell him how to do it. I guess that's your job.
Anyway, like I said, I just wanted to thank you.
I personally hope I get hit on in the grocery store
by someone who has read your book!
Thanks,
K.H.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Well, thank you for your letter. I truly appreciate your
honesty and directness.
Most men can't believe that what you're saying could
actually be true, but as we both know, it quite often is.
The interesting thing you say (which I agree with) is:
"I would never tell him how to do it."
In other words, A WOMAN WILL NEVER TEACH A WUSSY BOY WHO
DOESN'T KNOW WHAT TO DO THE SECRETS OF GETTING HER.
Translation for guys: If you don't know what you're doing
when it comes to women, LEARN.
***QUESTION***
Dave,
I have been reading your articles and from other guys
out there trying to improve their macking skills, your
articles and tips are on point on how to be a mack
with the ladies, but I feel that because of a negative
experiences with women in my teenage and college years,
really hold me back from being the mack that is inside
of me along, now in my mid-twenties, I need to get
passed this negative experiences with women, I have no
problem talking to women or having a conversation, but
i don't have my own place, my income is very low at
this moment, this make it even harder for me, could you
give me some advice to get pass this fear that because
i have very little now plus the past experience with
women in the past, plus I live in nyc where women are
into themselves, and a man without his own place, car,
and little money are looked at like "why are you talking
to me, you have nothing to offer me."
M.
nyc
>>>MY COMMENTS:
First of all, YES, there are women who will only talk
to you if you have money...
BUT THIS IS NOT THE RULE... IT'S THE EXCEPTION.
If a woman feels the magical emotion of ATTRACTION, then
it matters not how much money you have.
I used to believe that it was probably only guys who had
nice cars and lots of cash got to go out with all the
women...
But then, as I got to know more and more guys who were
VERY successful with women, I realized that it came down
to their personalities more than anything else... including
looks, height, money, etc.
In fact, MOST of the guys who I've met that are very
successful with women aren't rich at all.
You need to learn how to make women feel ATTRACTION by
using your personality. That's the ticket.
Really.
***QUESTION***
Hi Dave:
I have been reading your material for a few months now.
One of the best things I learned about your work is how
to get e-mail addresses and phone numbers from women. I
have great success at this point. This has also helped
my business.
I need help in two areas that involves taking it to the
next level. I want to meet a nice girl and settle down.
Firstly, how can I figure out which one of these girls
is the BEST for me in terms of personality and chemistry.
My last relationship lasted a year and a half and did not
work because we were always busting each others chops.
Secondly, I think there is a point when we just need to
stop playing games and be nice to these women... What do
you think?
B. NYC
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Well, I'm not the relationship expert, so I'm not going to
address how you should choose a woman to settle down with...
But I will comment on your question of whether or not there
is a point when you should stop "playing games" and "be
nice to these women".
The mindset and techniques that I teach are not my idea of
a "short term technique to get laid". Once you start using
the methods, you'll find that women respond to them on an
ONGOING basis. In other words, if you can keep up the
charming, Cocky and Funny attitude, it will keep a woman
feeling attracted to you FOREVER.
"Nice" is not a word that you want associated with yourself,
in my opinion. Women aren't ATTRACTED to guys who are
"nice".
Be interesting, unpredictable... even thoughtful and