I met a lady and was funny and cocky,

attracted to you. I don't know whether to kiss your or
tell you to tone it down.
Maybe neither.
Whatever.
Thanks for the email, and maybe you're going to have to
beat all those guys off with a stick.
I know, I know, but sometimes I just can't help myself...
***QUESTION***
I met a lady and was funny and cocky, but I was too
forward about sex and she blew me off. The next time I
met her, I said "I only want to be friends", then I
gave her a foot, leg and a head rub. She allowed me to
continue this as I explained why we could only be
friends. I later gave the kiss test and it was fireworks
from there. My question is: Why did telling her I only
wanted to be friends totally change how she reacted to
me?
Confused and Satisfied.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Oh, don't get me started on why reverse psychology works
with women...
Here's a little insight for you:
WOMEN DON'T GENERALLY TAKE ANYTHING AT FACE VALUE, THEY
ARE ALWAYS TRYING TO FIGURE OUT WHAT EVERYTHING "MEANS".
In other words, if you say "You're beautiful" a woman
might think "What he REALLY means is that he wants to
get into my pants".
If you say "I just want to be friends" a woman might
thing "What he REALLY means is that he's not attracted
to me... maybe there's something wrong here because
most men fall all over themselves. Maybe I don't look
good today. Maybe I'm losing my beauty. Oh yea? I'll
show him... I'm going to MAKE him feel attracted to me!"
Put that in your pipe and smoke it.
In the land of female perception and interpretation,
things are strange. But if you can get it through your
head to stop trying to communicate directly and
explicitly most of the time, you'll do much better all
the way around.
***COMMENT FROM A WOMAN***
I starting reading your Dating Tips from a guy friend who
prints them out and has them at his house. Mostly for the
sake of curiosity and to see if you were really right. And
any girl that disagrees is totally not being honest, all
your stuff was right on. Your kiss test, perfect, the cocky
and funny attitude, I love, even if I act like I don't
sometimes. Your approach to women is exactly what girls
like. It's awesome how your helping guys out by sharing
your experience and giving them pointers so they can become
more confident. There is nothing less attractive than a
wuss, I will totally be into a guy until he starts acting
like a wuss and I loose all interest in him. I'm glad your
letting guys know that.
I don't know if you give advice to girls but, while I'm
writing, I have a really good guy friend, we hang out
probably twice a week (he always calls to hang out, I won't
call guys unless we are in a relationship) he
confuses the hell out of me. He'll tell me about his dates
and ask advice from me, which makes me think he just
considers me a friend. But then I'll be laying in his lap
and he'll be rubbing my head and playing with my hair. What
do you think he thinks of me? May seem like an obvious
answer but he really does confuse me. Hey, maybe he reads
your stuff.
Anyway, I thought I'd write and let you know that your
right on the money, which you probably already do know, but
I read that email from that other girl (the one with the
grammar and spelling problem) and was kind of ticked, she
obviously doesn't know what she's talking about and is
probably twelve by the way she was talking. Thanks for
helping all these guys out and telling them what we really
love!
V.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
I love honest women. You forgot to include your phone
number and several classy-yet-sexy pictures of yourself
with your email.
Why is it that I tend to believe you more than the
girl at the beginning of this mailbag who was all upset
because I'm messing up her game?
As for your guy friend, I think he knows EXACTLY what's
going on.
And because he's not acting like a typical loser wienie
wussy boy, you're REALLY getting into him.
I think you should play hard to get a little more, and
start dating other guys, then tell HIM about it! See
what his reaction is. This will settle the matter for
you...
Thanks for your email, and don't forget the pictures.
***COMMENT***
Dave,
Just a quick note to say this stuff works just like pressing
a button. I have two teenage sons entering the dating
world.
So, wanting to make sure they would be big "Mack daddies",
like their old man, I got your book. And of course I had to
preview all the material to insure quality and readability.
I laughed my a.. off! Even though I am happily married, I
could not resist using the C&F, just to mess with them.
Now I've got to stop! Ladies of all ages, some nearly half
my age (43), coming on to me. And I mean heavy duty
obsessions. I am AFRAID! Guys, be careful with this stuff!
Guy in Florida
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Amazing.
What's up with you being the coolest dad that I've
personally
ever heard of in my entire life?!
Emails like this one actually warm my heart.
Of course, I love making fun of girly-men too, but this is
just out of control.
If you're a father of teenage boys, do them a favor and
teach
them the skills they'll need later on.
At this stage you can weave ethics and responsibility into
the materials, and make sure that they learn how to use
the power with responsibility, rather than just learning
to be jerks later in life who abuse women.
It's a great idea.
***SUCCESS STORY***
I met a woman through the internet. She had several
pictures
and a good profile posted. I tried to keep our conversation
fun. I suggested that we meet some time for coffee or a
toddy. She told me she didn't want to meet me because I
would then stop sending her such great emails. I sent her
an email, "What makes you think they won't get better"? She
sent her phone number. I didn't ask to meet her again for
about
a week. She mailed me and said, How will you know if you
like
or don't like me?" I mailed back, "I will know when we
touch".
I met her for a drink. I sat across from her. We talked
for a
long time. Then I asked to see her hand. I took it in mine
and
lightly kissed it. She was trembling. I went to the mens
room
and when I returned I sat next to her. I touched and fondled
her hair and commented that it was pretty and she was also.
I
reached for her hand again. She was trembling. I knew I
could
safely kiss her then.
JB Little Rock, AR
>>>MY COMMENTS: