To dance or not to dance.,

>>>MY COMMENTS:
OK, sounds like you have two different issues that you're
dealing with:
1) To dance or not to dance.
2) The noise and crowds of nightclubs.
Interestingly, my perspective is that the answer to both
questions is basically the same...
There are some guys that like to go out to nightclubs to
pick up women to take home THAT NIGHT.
Now, most of the guys I know who go out with this objective
don't actually wind up "bringing home babes" as often as
they'd like. In other words, unless this your sole
objective,
and you're an ABSOLUTE PRO, then you might start thinking
about this situation differently.
When I go out to a club with the idea of meeting women, my
main objective to get emails and phone numbers. That's it.
You can start a quick interchange with a woman, get her
email and number, and be done with the whole thing in about
3 or 5 minutes. You can do this all night and wind up with
information from 5 or more women each night you go out.
The interesting thing is that you don't actually have to
even use Cocky and Funny very much if this is your plan.
You can save it for get-togethers over tea, or phone
conversations.
Of course, if you can use your Cocky and Funny attitude,
all the better. But if you're dealing with noise and
crowds, where you may not even be heard, just get the
info!
And as for dancing, if you're getting her info in the
first few minutes, then you won't have to dance, buy her
a drink, or get into a long conversation that you can't
understand. Getting emails and numbers quickly is usually
the best way to go in these situations.
***QUESTION***
Hey Dave, I was just curious, i'm an average man who tells
jokes like crazy to girls, I make tons of people laugh and
friends with everyone. I can talk to a girl in a second but
some are harder then others, How do you get real secrets out
of them, and know what some deep things are about em. So I
am
asking when I go up and make fun of them teasing and being
cocky, what are some more things I should say to get the
conversation rolling and want them to talk to me even more.
If I get a conversation its easy to tell a little joke here
and there.so what are some easy ways to just to get an very
high interesting topic to talk to them about?
Thanks......... D
>>>MY COMMENTS:
First of all, why do you want to know "deep" things about
a girl you've just met? And why do you want to get "real
secrets" about her?
Read my last comments above... just get the info!
You can follow up later, and if you want to know "secrets"
and "deep things", you can work on that later.
By the way, secrets and deep things are best not discussed
early on, unless you're trying to get into a relationship
in 5 minutes.
***QUESTION***
I just wanted to let you know you information is the best
material I ever decided to invest in. I know you told
people that you have tried everything and these techniques
work best, so let me make a comment to any of the skeptics
out there. I have personally invested money in material
which discussed being touchy feely and complementing women
as many times as you can on a first date while making lots
of cheesy smiles to show attraction. I've also purchased
book & tape packages which told me to touch women in
various places while in clubs talking to them, to get them
aroused (I am surprised I didn't get a drink thrown in my
face!), I memorized paragraphs (literally) of things to say
when out with women(once a women told me I seemed false)
and NONE of these get the reaction I get from using the
material in your book. Oddly enough....the only reason I
didn't want to get the double your dating material in the
beginning is because it wasn't as expensive as the other
BS material I wasted so much money on, so I figured it
can't be as good. I am in grad school right now and I
realized after reading your newsletters(which had questions
from the rich to average) that making good money was not
going to give me success with women, and besides I don't
want anyone putting me in the long-term lover withhold sex
category explained in your book anyway.
Since I have been using your techniques I have been seeing
a women that is very attractive and used to date a pro
athlete. She just told me recently (without me asking of
course) that the reason she felt so attracted to me was my
care free, take no crap off her attitude I developed from
your book. She tried to throw a tantrum when we were
leaving a club wanting me to chase her, so I laughed and
told her "when you think you can control your alcohol
maybe you can regain your privileges of talking to me
again!" then I walked off grinning (love it!). She
explained to me later that she was putting me through a
series of test and I was doing things that other guys just
didn't do (by the way....she called ME first thing the next
morning to apologize.) She told me the others just kiss
her ass and try to make her happy. Now I just reread your
book so I remember not to become one of them.
This brings me to my question. I know you don't specialize
in the long term stuff but I would like your opinion. Her
birthday is coming up and I wanted to know what would be
something special I can do without over doing it. Fathers
day just passed (I have a daughter not from her)and she got
me a designer shirt, so I don't want to do anything lame
either. Can you help me.
Thanks,
N.
Texas
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Wow, great job.
It's not often that an attractive woman will actually TELL
you explicitly that she's testing you. You have a gal
there that is unusually open.
I included your email because it's a great example of how
women test men. Most guys FAIL MISERABLY when tested, and
they lose the girl in the process. It's sad, but true.
When a woman tests a man, it's like a blind psychological
experiment. She's doing the testing, but she knows that
she can't TELL you what's going on, because then you'll
know it's a test and not respond authentically.
How else could she find out the TRUE nature of your
character? How else could she find out if you're actually
a strong-willed man with inner power, or just another
actor playing pretend in order to conceal the INNER WUSS?
Think about it.
As for the gift idea...
Women typically love SURPRISES and THOUGHTFUL expressions
of your feelings. As you know, I don't like to comment on
the relationship stages, but if you want to make her see
you as different from other guys, plan a few thoughtful
surprises for her. Think about experiences that she's
always wanted to have, or things she really likes, then
combine together to create a time she won't forget.
It doesn't take money to do this, and it's actually
better if you DON'T spend a lot.
Remember, what I'm talking about here is to be used when
you know a woman and have been dating her for at least
a little while. This is the kind of thing that has the
word "relationship" all over it, and you don't want to
do things like this too soon, or you run the risk of
coming across the wrong way.
[As a side note: I want to re-affirm that even though I
choose not to comment on the "relationship" stage very
often, that doesn't mean that I don't like relationships or
have a problem with the idea. I think that a great
relationship with a great woman can be one of the best
experiences in life... But I also think that to attract a
really amazing woman you need to know what you're doing.
And that's what I focus on: How to be more successful with
women and DATING - not women and RELATIONSHIPS.]
***QUESTION***
Well I got a question here. I have a great resource to
meet women, but I am unsure on how to go about milking it.