I get a lot of questions about this topic,

Great questions. To answer your first question, WHY WOULD
YOU
WANT TO STOP DOING WHAT'S WORKING? I realize that you may
not
have been "naturally" Cocky and Funny before recently, but
if
it's working so well, why would you want to change it?
I get a lot of questions about this topic, and I can really
understand the point. You'd rather be able to do what "comes
naturally" to you and be "yourself" around women.
But if you look at your second question, you'll find that
you
actually spell out what happens when you just "be yourself".
You turn into "girlfriend-man". You become a "friend".
I don't think that's what you want.
But instead of thinking as Cocky and Funny as a process of
"not being yourself", instead think of it as "being
considerate of what a woman wants" and providing it. I
think that you can really learn to enjoy being Cocky and
Funny, and make it part of your personality.
To answer your second question, it's quite a task to turn
a girl "friend" into something more... but it definitely
can be done. I personally have better things to do with my
time, but if you're HELL BENT on doing it, then do this:
1) Stop talking to her so much.
2) Stop acting like a WUSS when you do talk to her.
3) Start busting on her more and being indifferent.
4) Tell her about how well you're doing with the ladies.
5) If she beings flirting back, then progress to The Kiss
Test and move things to a physical level.
You need to stop acting like a "girlfriend" and start
acting like a guy who makes women feel ATTRACTION at a
GUT level. But be careful, because if you screw this one
up, you'll probably lose her friendship as well.
***COMMENT FROM A WOMAN***
I am a girl. My boyfriend receives your newsletter. We came
across the advice you had given to the man about what he did
wrong with this girl by giving her six dollars for a drink
and she didn't answer or return her calls. I would think it
would be wiser to have a girl give advice seeing as how it
is
advice on girls being given! The advice you gave him was not
only wrong, but it was bitchy. The joke he gave her was not
right. It was rude. I think you should find someone else to
give the advice on this site.
-J, OH
>>>MY COMMENTS:
First of all, let's re-visit the original question and
answer
that we're talking about... here it is again so we can
review
before I make fun of you and your Wussy boyfriend:
*******ORIGINAL QUESTION AND ANSWER*********
***QUESTION***
I started to talk to this girl that i met when i went out
with one of my friends' brother. we went down town and hung
out. everything was going good and i got her # by the end of
the night. We hung out the next weekend and went to a club.
we
got in the club and she asked for 6 dollars to by her a
drink.
I asked her "what do i get out of it?" and there was the
laugh
and then i decided to give her the money. after the club i
took
her home with my friend and her friend. I asked her for a
Kiss goodbye she gave it to me. Then i told her that i was
goin
to call her the next week because i knew of a party the
following week. After calling her next week i had trouble
getting a hold of her and she didn’t pick up her cell phone.
It
has been about 2 weeks since i have talked to her. And the
weekend that she was suppose to hang out has just passed. Do
u
see a problem in this or if i messed up some where?
thank you
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Yea, as a matter of fact, I do see a problem.
What are you doing giving a woman six bucks for a drink?
You were SOOO right no target when you answered with "What
do
I get out of it?" SHE LOVED IT!
But then you had to go and SCREW IT ALL UP by giving her the
money... ouch.
When she laughed you should have said "Well?"
And WHATEVER she answered with, you should have said:
"SORRY, not good enough... buy your own drink."
STOP TRYING TO BUY ATTENTION FROM WOMEN.
It makes you look like a WUSSY SCHMUCK BOY.
Oh, and will someone remind me to practice being more honest
and direct with people? I sometimes feel that I'm too shy
and don't want to hurt their feelings...
********END OF ORIGINAL QUESTION AND ANSWER**********
Now back to your comments and me making fun of you...
The advice I gave was RIGHT ON.
If a woman asks for money early on, then you need to either:
1) Cut her loose and run, hand on wallet, for the hills.
2) If you're feeling up to the challenge, then say something
very Cocky and Funny while refusing.
My advice was to follow up the question of "What do I get
out of it?" with "Sorry, not good enough... buy your own
drink", which is VERY funny when delivered with the correct
sarcastic tone.
It also raises the bar and says "What do you have me
confused
for an ass-kissing loser who needs to buy your attention
with
money? Here, let me fix that for you."
This is the kind of reply that creates tension, electricity,
and ATTRACTION.
Now will you tell your Wussy boyfriend to stop letting you
read his email AND respond to it too? You're just upset
because I'm messing up your game... my answer here is
probably
going to cost you thousands of dollars in food and drinks
this year alone.
Please don't be mad at me, I don't think me ego could stand
it.
***QUESTION***
I owe a lot of my success to you. I try the cocky funny
thing,
and it does work thank you for that. But I don’t like the
whole one night stand thing. I want to get a girl and do the
whole boyfriend thing. My question to you is HOW? I've met
my share of 7's and 8's, but they just aren't what I’m
looking
for.
Thank you in advance.
J.B. CA
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Well, you're not alone. I believe that MOST men would prefer
to meet a great girl and have a fulfilling relationship. I
really do believe this.
In my estimation, 80%-90% of men are ultimately looking for
a fantastic woman to enjoy a relationship with.
One of the main reasons why I advocate learning how to be
successful with women and dating is IT'S NOT EASY TO FIND
A HAPPY, HIGH QUALITY, EMOTIONALLY HEALTHY WOMAN!
You usually have to meet a lot of women before you find a
woman that is a great match for you... a woman that you
don't feel like you're "settling" for.