If you like the idea of staying single

and dating a lot of different women, then this is the
way to do it! Just make sure they don't turn into your
personal "psychological projects".
Thanks for your email.
***QUESTION***
Hey Dave....
I’m a premed student who has been subscribing to your
newsletter for quite a while now. I've been meaning to buy
your book but im not in the habit of using a credit card so
ill have to open an account especially for this. Anyway,
i've been going out with this girl for 9 months now. She is
smart, attractive, and funny. the way i landed her was by
being cocky funny. EXTREMELY cocky funny. i was always one
step ahead of her. It was kind of like "Dont even TRY to
challenge me, im already inside your head!". everything was
cool. but to tell the truth (and no offense) i just kind of
got tired of the constant effort.....so i cooled it off a
bit not always seizing the opportunity to remind her just
who it is she's dealing with. And i think i got screwed.
Now i feel like i've turned into a wuss....and i HATE IT !!!
no..I LOATHE IT !!!!!!!!!! When i turn on the macho act
she's a pussy cat again. You see i want someone to whom i
can genuinely be....just nice to, with her appreciating it
and NOT taking advantage. i mean since this is a long-term
relationship i want someone who will give me a smooth ride
without all that continuos maintenance. I dont wanna be
cocky and tough all my life with her, sometimes a guy just
wants to relax. Is it possible??
F.Z, Lebanon
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Ooooooo, good question.
I've seen a trend in the way guys who are learning to be
Cocky and Funny and to stay in control change.
As they're learning the techniques, they become more and
more attractive to women. Then, they meet a really amazing
woman - a woman that was previously "out of their league",
and they decide to start a relationship.
As soon as they start getting closer, the guy begins to
put aside the things that worked, and start being more
and more submissive... which, of course, drives this new
woman away.
Then I get an email saying "I want to be nice and sweet
and a good guy but still have all the super hot women
calling me 24/7".
Here's what I say:
"BEING YOURSELF" IS A PRIVELEGE THAT YOU HAVE TO EARN,
NOT A RIGHT.
And the way that you earn it is to learn what it takes
to make women feel ATTRACTION, learn what it takes to
NOT drive women away, then make these things part of
"YOURSELF".
Are you with me here?
The problem is that "being yourself" for a lot of guys
means "being the type of guy that women don't feel any
ATTRACTION for".
If you can't make a woman feel the emotion of ATTRACTION,
then there's really nothing I can do to help you. If
you're not willing to do the work and make the changes
more or less permanent, then you're going to have a long
uphill battle.
And in your case, you have to realize that this woman
was attracted to you for a REASON, and if you stop that
REASON, then you're going to stop the ATTRACTION.
***QUESTION***
Whats goin on Dave?
I would love to say how great your stuff works, but I
haven't had much luck with it as of yet. I have seen it put
to good use though. My bro does the whole cocky/funny
routine naturally and I see all its power. Most of the time
I was Mr. Nice-Guy. and, of course, it didn't work as much
as I would like. Which is why I'm writing this e-mail.(duh)
My problem is I'm missing the key ingredient to your
'super recipe,' funny. The way I see it, cocky is like
garlic, by itself it is repulsive and disgusting. But when
used as a seasoning to another main dish (funny), it can do
wonders. I'm missing the main dish. Anyone can be cocky, but
I lack in the funny department. So where do I start to fix
this?
Thanks,
P in NJ
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Humor has a structure, and it can be learned. Some people
have an easier time learning how to be funny than others,
but I've seen some not-too-funny people become VERY funny
with practice.
Read some books, watch Comedy Central, and practice. Start
a journal and write down funny lines you hear so you can
use them later.
Get with your Bro and watch him. Ask him for advice and
ideas. Practice. You can learn how to be funny, and it's
important that you do if you want to attract women!
As I'm sure you know, my book has some of my very favorite
"standard" lines for different situations, plus more on
how to create specific humor for specific situations. Go to:
http://www.doubleyourdating.com/ebook/ for all the details.
***COMMENT***
Dave,
I know that you put real stories in these letters
because
I sent one in and it appeared exactly as I had written it.
I laughed till I cried over the "fat, pimply, and hairy"
story.
You are "Da man" I look forward to your wit in these
letters and I must admit I'm going to buy your book.
GJ
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Yes, all of the email letters I print in my newsletters are
ALL real. Every single one of them. I wish I had more time
in the day, because I get hundreds of them a week...
Thanks for the compliments, and enjoy.