I believe that MOST guys would prefer to be

>>>MY COMMENTS:
Well, as much as I avoid "Relationship" questions, I just
have to comment on this one.
First of all, I believe that MOST guys would prefer to be
in a relationship with a great women (over being single).
The problem is that amazing women are as rare as amazing
men...
If you REALLY want to make a women become attached to you,
then you might want to try a paradoxical move...
Stop looking for a relationship.
If you communicate that you want a relationship, the natural
response is going to be for a woman to play Hard To Get.
If YOU do the playing of the Hard To Get, and you HOLD OFF
on showing the "relationship" level of interest, you'll
find that the woman will pursue the relationship with YOU.
Think about it.
***QUESTION***
Hey Dave,
I like your newsletter and I really enjoyed your books. I
have one problem though. My sister, who is a socialite and
seems to have a ton of really attractive friends, has this
one friend. She's one of my sister's best friends and is
my age. The woman is incredible...definitely a 9 or 10.
She's got this really sweet personality, but also goofy at
the same time. I know she's dated pretty boy models and NHL
hockey players before, but I know she's not too superficial
inside, since she broke things off with them after she was
unhappy. So even though I'm probably a 6 or 7, I think I
may have a shot, as I've heard she's recently single.
Anyway, my problem is that I have absolutely nothing I can
bust on her about. I don't know her well enough to rag on
those Ex bfs or anything. Most of our conversations revolve
around our mutual admiration for my cat....So any past
encounters we've had have been in 'wuss' mode. What would
be your approach to this situation?
Thanks,
C.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Say what?
You have "absolutely nothing" you can bust on her about?
You really need to get a couple of books on comedy, my
man.
What color hair does she have? If it's blonde, learn some
blonde jokes... if it's brunette, learn some brunette
jokes.
Is she tall? Bust on her height.
Is she short? Bust on her vertically challenged-ness.
And by the way, WHAT ARE YOU DOING WITH A CAT?
Don't even get me started on the jokes you can make about
her being more interested in the pussy than in you. I
could write a book of lesbian jokes based on your oneparagraph
email alone... and I've never even met this
girl myself.
Are you starting to get the picture?
***QUESTION***
Dave,
I bought your book and I have been able to successfully use
your method.
Last knight I picked up this girl at a lounge by accusing
her of being a liar. I struck up a conversation and started
doing the small talk thing (no wuss topics). I then ask her
about her age, she leaned over and whispered in my ear
that she was 20 years old. I heard her loud and clear. But
when she turned her attention elsewhere I ask one of her
friends that she was with(who was also very hot) If the
girl I was speaking to was really 26 years old, (all at
the same time giving of the impression that I wasn't really
convinced) Surprised she turned to her friend saying "You
told him you're 26?". I then of course accused lying so
that she could have a better chance of hooking up with me.
I then proceed to tell her how often girls do this to me
and how she would have a much better chance with me by
simply being herself. The boys at this point were cracking
up. This was all done in good fun and in a FUNNY COCKY
way, the girls knew I was joking but at the same time they
were not 100% sure, this really played on their curiosity.
My Question, Should I make eye contact with a girl before
talking to her or should I just make her feel like she
doesn't exist first and then proceed to hitting on her?
Also is it bad to stand at the bar and check out the
women? Does this make you seem needy? In other words
what's the best way of working the room before I start to
talk.
thanks. CA
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Another masterpiece of Cocky and Funny. This is great...
I can feel more and more guys are getting it.
And about eye contact.
Eye contact is VERY powerful.
I recommend that if you make eye contact with a woman
that you keep it until SHE looks away. This is a great
exercise, by the way. Just go out and make eye contact
with as many women as you can... and keep it until they
look away.
If you're already talking to a woman, you're going to
have to work with the situation.
In some situations, you're going to want to be aloof,
and in some you're going to want to be intense.
Just remember not to look away because you're nervous
or afraid. Women can detect weakness very quickly, and
they turn off like a light switch when they do.
If you want to "check out women", just make sure you
don't look like a looser that has no life and is
planning to use the images you're taking in for future
solo fantasy role play.
Don't look desperate.
Women are turned off by guys who have that "I'm not
worthy" look... and they're turned ON by guys who have
that "You are interesting to me, but not so much so that
I'd give blood just to talk to you" look.
***QUESTION***
OK, Dave, what's wrong? Why won't you put my letters in
your mailbag? I NEED HELP!!!! But, yet, you refuse to