that first call!

that first call:
1. Be busy. If you're going to ask her to join you for tea
or something similar, make sure you mention two times that
you're busy for every one time that you're available.
2. Don't linger on the phone. Make that first call short
and to the point. If you stay on the phone for more than a
few minutes, you're running the risk of getting into a
normal "What do you do?" "Where do you live?" "Where did
you go to school?" conversation. Avoid.
To summarize, when in doubt wait a day or so to contact
her again.
But more importantly, think about the situation in terms
of anticipation and ATTRACTION, so when you do make contact
it creates the correct context.
Of course, if you'd like to get ALL of my best thinking
on how to deal with different situations and make a woman
feel that magical emotion called ATTRACTION for you, then
you need to read my book "Double Your Dating". It's full of
all my best thinking and ideas about how to attract the
kinds of women that you've always wanted. Just go to:
http://www.doubleyourdating.com/ebook/
...now and get it.
And I'll talk to you again soon.
Your Friend,
David D.
DATING TIP: HOW TO APPROACH WOMEN
DATING TIP: "How Do I Approach And Start Conversations With
Women?"
>>>THIS WEEK'S QUESTION:
David,
I've been receiving your E-mails for about 2 months now
And I, being the shy guy, am breaking out of my shell. But
My question is this...
I'm around women all the time. At work, at the bars,
everywhere...what is the best way to train myself to be able
to talk to these girls. So many times I'm sitting there and
this Absolutely Beautiful girl walks in and I'm stunned. But
I don't really know what to say to this girl so she leaves
and that's it. I'm getting better but how do I get more
consistent with my Cocky + Funny lines.
Any Exercises?
KG
DC
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Your email is asking all the right questions. I think
you're going to be surprised at some of the answers that I
provide.
Let's break this down into the different questions that
I hear you asking...
1. What is the best way to train myself to talk to women
at work, bars, and other places?
2. How do I prepare myself so I'm ready to start a
conversation as soon as I see a woman... rather than
waiting and losing the opportunity.
3. How do I use Cocky and Funny in these situations?
Now, I realize that I've paraphrased your questions,
but I've done this for a reason. Sometimes I think that we
confuse ourselves by asking the wrong questions.
If we're looking for solutions to the wrong questions,
then we wind up with the wrong answers. And, or course, the
wrong answers usually won't get us the best results.
So let's talk about the first two questions...
How to train yourself to talk to women, and how to be
prepared so you don't miss opportunities.
I think that training yourself comes down to two basic
things...
1. Mental rehearsal
2. Doing it
First you need to take time when you're alone to imagine
one particular place where you see women you'd like to meet,
then mentally rehearse exactly how you'd handle the
situation.
Think about how you will walk over, what you will say,
what she might say or do in response, etc. Imagine all of
the
little details you possibly can.
You'll find something interesting: As you do this, you'll
notice that your mind will show you where you need help, and
allow you to fix problems in advance.
For instance, while mentally practicing, you might be
imagining a situation where you're talking to a woman, it's
going well, and you say "Hey, do you have email?" She
replies
"Yes, of course", and you say "Great, give it to me."
But then you realize that you don't have a pen on you to
get the email. Or that you don't have paper on you. So you
decide that it's time to get a pen to carry with you at all
times, and a small notepad to go with it. (Don't laugh, most
of the guys I know who are great with women ALWAYS have a
pen
and paper on them).
The point is that mentally rehearsing will give you all
kinds of great insight, and it will help you to be ready for
any situation that comes up.
Second, you need to actually DO IT. You need to start
talking to all the women you see that you're interested in.
Maybe at first you need to just walk up and say "Those
are great shoes" or "Do you have the time?". I don't care
what you do... just do something. (I don't promote being
dishonest, so don't be deceptive.)
What I'm saying here is that you need to get used to
going over and talking to women. The more you do it, the
easier it will get. And like I said, if you have to start
with simple things like giving a compliment or asking for
the time, then do it. It will help build your comfort level
up for more in the future.
Now I'd like to address the third question:
3. How do I use Cocky and Funny in these situations?