Feeling like we need to be original

made you successful in the past... and to just "start over"
from scratch.
5) Feeling like we need to be original and unique in every
situation. I've watched many, many situations where a guy
will see a woman that he'd like to meet, but he doesn't know
what to say to her to start a conversation because he feels
like he needs to come up with something catchy and original.
Of course, there are more reasons than this, but these
are some of the most common ones I see.
So what's the answer? What can you do to avoid losing
the great game that you've created?
Here are a few techniques that I and some of my friends
use:
1) Keep a journal. I know, I know... you don't want to
look like a homeless poet or some out-of-work screenwriter
sitting in a cafe with nothing better to do than write to
yourself...
But keeping a journal of your best ideas and how they've
worked is a GREAT idea. You don't have to get fancy, and you
don't need to take a lot of time with this.
Just remember to write down things that work for you.
You might be out for tea with a woman, and casually bring
up a book you read about unusual sexual practices... and
notice that it gets a great response. Write it down in the
"interesting ideas" section of your journal so you remember
to try it again. (I haven't tried this particular one, but
I have found that women love to talk about sex in general)
The point is that if you keep a record of all the best
things you do, then you can look back at it and refresh
your memory any time you want. It's a great idea, and I
do it. It's one of the single best things I've done to
improve quickly with women.
2) Have one good default thing to do for every common
situation. Have one way to start conversations, one way
to get emails and numbers, one great place to go for a
tea/coffee meeting, etc.
If you can't think of something original in the moment,
then you have something to do that will work well. If you
don't do this, you'll wind up hesitating and losing all
kinds
of opportunities.
The journal is a great place to write down all of your
"default" techniques, plan them out, and organize them for
easy refreshing.
3) Put negative experiences into proper perspective.
When you have a negative emotional experience, it can be
intense... and it can have an impact on your behavior. It's
important to remember that just because you had a negative
experience doesn't necessarily meant that you did something
wrong.
The best stock traders lose money on many trades.
The best sports stars lose games often.
The best weather forecasters are often wrong.
But do they let temporary setbacks deter them from
being successful?
Of course not. They get right back on track and keep
going.
If you get turned down for a date, or a woman stops
calling you back, or a woman says that you're a rude and
arrogant bastard because you made fun of her... you need
to stop and think about the situation.
If you're successful most of the other times, then you
need to decide if this was because you're truly not doing
the right thing or if it was just one of those situations
that happens once in awhile.
I heard a great quote awhile back, but I can't remember
who originally said it or wrote it:
"I don't know the key to success, but the key to failure
is trying to please everyone."
4) Keep learning all the time. If you stop learning new
things, your mind starts becoming set in it's ways.
The way to keep improving and becoming more successful
is to putting innovative ideas into your mind. You must
continue to learn in order to continually become better.
And on that note, if you haven't downloaded your copy
of my online eBook, then you're missing out on one of the
best learning opportunities there is in the area of meeting
and dating women. To get your copy, just go to:
http://www.doubleyourdating.com/ebook
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They'll appreciate it, and I'll appreciate it.
I'll talk to you again in a couple of days.
Your Friend,
David D.
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***QUESTION***
Hey -
I am 18 years old and just graduated high school. I used to
be a MAJOR wuss and when I was younger I was always a shy
kid who was picked on a lot because I was a short, skinny
kid
that never stood up for myself. And worst of all, I never
took advantage of high school to get girls! I started
getting your newsletter earlier this year and the cocky +
funny attitude changed my life in more ways than one. I hang
out with guys that get the hottest high school girls you can
ever imagine. Not only do they get 9's and 10's, I see
these girls obsess over them. I was around them so much
that I tried to model thier behavior around girls and I
noticed that EVERYTHING you preach about, comes to them
NATURALLY. Every tip of advice you’ve given to guys
ACTUALLY
works, and Ive seen it first hand.
I started using cocky + funny myself and even use lines
that Ive seen my friends use in past cases. I saw a HOT
girl in the mall and she was checking herself out in a
pocket mirror so I said "don’t worry, your hair doesn’t look
THATTT bad". She started laughing even though I just made
fun of her! I asked for her email and when she said she
doenst have the internet, I used your line "well do you have
electricity"? AGAIN the girl laughed, and I ended up
getting her phone # and I hooked up with her that weekend!
MY QUESTION - my natural personality has transformed
from a wussy shy nice kid to a guy that’s gonna bust your
balls, but a nice guy at heart. I made a lot more girl
"friends" too, but whenever they try to tell me their sad
stories, I let them know Im not their boyfriend and do not
care. Whenever I gain the courage to use cocky+funny, it
WORKS but my problem is even though I’ve seen this work in
action, I fear I don’t know enough cocky+funny lines to keep
up a conversation with a girl. Also, do you recommend
hitting on random strangers you see, because my friends say
they never really hit on strangers unless they have a
reason to go up and talk to them. My friends also say to
ALWAYS have 5 "project girls" and never focus on one girl.
Is this true? please write back.
E from NYC
>>>MY COMMENTS:
It's interesting, because I actually discovered the Cocky
and Funny technique by watching guys who were good with
women. In fact, a guy who is now a good friend was trying
to explain the concept to me a few years back... and he
was the first one to say "Cocky and Funny". Of course, I
had no idea what he was talking about at the time. It
really made no sense to me.
But after I started working with it and watching other
guys who were really successful with women, I learned
how it worked.
It sounds like you're really getting it - congrats!
As for your questions...
Don't worry about being able to "come up with enough
lines to keep up a conversation". Just do what you can,
and enjoy yourself. A few Cocky and Funny lines used
here and there are MUCH better than nothing at all.
If you feel like approaching strangers, great. If you
just realize that most women are going to be nice, but
some will be either unavailable or unfriendly then
you'll be fine. I have personally had great success
meeting "strangers", and as my good friend Rick says:
Every friend you have started out as a stranger...
And as for the "5 project girls", you're cracking me
up over here. If you like the idea of staying single