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SHE SAYS: "I LIKE YOU AS A FRIEND"
***QUESTION***
Hello,
My name is O. im 20 years old, living in
Cyprus. Actually in my college i got interested to a
gal.
She was also good with me and many times did
somethings that means, at least for me, she is
interested to me too. Recently I got her mobile number
and i called her the day after it and she talked to me
normally BUT after a few days when i called her again
she did not answered to my call (she didnt pick the
mobile up). then I sent her this SMS:
Without U life is Black not White.Without U the world
has no hope,no light.Without U I cant go left or
right.Without U I lose my sight.THANK U MY GLASSES!
I called her 2 or 3 times after it in 3 days but she
didnot answered again.Then I sent her this SMS:
DAYS R 2 BUSY
HOURS R 2 FAST
SECONDS R 2 FEW
BUT THERE IS ALWAYS TIME 4 ME 2 REMEMBER YOU!
2 days after it I again called her and this time she
didnot pickup the phone as well,So I decided to say
her every thing and tell her the truth and at least I
will know is she really likes me or not,then i sent
her this message:
Hello my A.,I sent you lots of messages BUT you
did not answered to me.Im worry about you,is every
thing all right? I want to tell you a truth...
I like you, in fact I love you. You are always in my
mind,you are everywhere,I never forget you...I REALLY
MISS YOU!
Then, after 2 hours she replyed me with this message:
Hey O. I got all your messages I'm all right .Sorry for not replying.Anyway I want to
tell u that I just want a be your friend.Sorry if I
Gave u the wrong idea, I didn't want u to
misunderstand me
With this message she told me that she doesnot want to
be my girl friend so in reply to her I wrote this(I
said good bye):
Thanks for answering.I hope you be successful in your
life everywhere with anybody and thanks for every
thing 'cause you taught me many things!
I was not expecting any reply from her but she sent
this sms right after my sms:
I enjoy being your friend.I WISH U THE BEST.Have a
nice holiday.Sorry if I made u feel bad:(
did not send her any sms but after 2 days she sent me
this sms, which really made me quite confused:
* * * * *
* * * * * *
*....FRIENDS
are like stars....
you do not ALWAYS SEE
them but you know they
are ALWAYS there!!!
I really need your advise. The girl who did not EVEN
wanted to answer to my calls now sends me such
messages!
Now,I beg you please tell me what does she mean by
these words? and What should I do?
I really loved her but when she told me that she want
just to be my friend,however,it was hard for me to
believed but I accepted it and said goodbye to her
with my last message.But as you can see....!!!!
I need your idea totally,
What do think about her? and IF you suggest me to
continue being her friend What should I do now after
sending that goodbye sms? What should I reply to her
last message,what should I told her? honestly, I still
like her! but I think Im not sure is she playing with
me? and the last question, If she want me just as
friend Am I so important for her that she do not want
to lose me? and Why?
I'm looking forward to hear from you. Please tell me
what do you think about her from her messages.
Very Sincerely Yours,
O.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Even though you live all the way on the other side of
the world from me in Cyprus, I can still feel your pain.
I think that probably every man can identify with the
following sequence:
1) Meet girl.
2) Get along well with girl.
3) Feel attracted to girl and think she is attracted to you.
4) Tell girl that you like her (after getting up the nerve).
5) Girl disappears.
6) Call girl 47 times, but still no response.
7) Finally girl turns up and says "I only like you as a
friend and sorry if I hurt you".
...Ouch. I know it's a bummer, but you might take comfort
knowing that this has happened to me and just about every
guy I know MANY times.
Let me take a shot at explaining what's going on here,
and hopefully help you and the others reading this to avoid
this kind of thing as much as possible in the future.
From my perspective, there are a few main issues going on
here all at once...
1) Women are complex and often illogical (so are men, but in
different ways).
2) Women are attracted to men for reasons that most men
either don't know, don't understand, or won't accept.
3) The way that women communicate isn't always as "direct
and straightforward" as most of us guys would like.
4) It's difficult to un-do one of these situations once it
has reached this point.
5) There are things you can do to avoid this kind of thing
in the future.
So, let's deal with these one at a time as they relate
to your situation...
1) Women are complex and often illogical (so are men, but in
different ways).
Women act on emotion and intuition more than men. They
don't do the "logical" thing as often as men.
Women walk into Starbucks and order a "fat free" cafe
mocha, and then get WHIPPED CREAM on top. No kidding. I
see it all the time...
Women will go through a full closet of clothing trying