Action Steps:,

Action Steps:
1) Choose the one situation that happens most often, the one
that you'd like to have an EXACT default sequence of words
and behaviors to use to get you to the next level.
2) Close your eyes, and mentally run through the last five
or ten situations like this that you were in.
3) Brainstorm 10 or 20 great ways that you could handle
this particular situation in the future.
4) Choose the one single best idea on the list, and refine
it down to an exact sequence.
5) Close your eyes again and mentally rehearse it. See
yourself doing it in your mind's eye. Move around and play
it out... if you need to stand up, do it. Actually imagine
that a woman is in the room with you, and pretend that
you're getting her number, kissing her, or whatever.
6) If your mom comes into your room, quickly transition
into "Macbeth" and claim that you were improvising on
Shakespeare!
Seriously, it's ULTRA important for you to know what
you're going to do next time you're talking to a woman and
you want to ask for her email of phone number.
If you don't know what you're going to do and exactly
how to do it, then you're probably going to come across
like Mr. Smooth in the cel phone store...
Here's the irony of this situation:
WOMEN WANT YOU TO TAKE THE NEXT STEP!
But if you don't, then they won't either.
A woman will think to herself... "He seems nice, funny,
interesting. I wish he'd ask me for my number... Oh, he's
nervous... how cute. Well, if he can't get up the nerve to
ask me for my number, then I'm not going to overcome his
inner WUSSY and do it for him. Poor thing."
And I'm not kidding about this.
Find an attractive woman and read this newsletter to
her. She'll laugh her ass off at what I just wrote. Really.
Of course, if you would like to take a look at the
"Teacher's Edition" of the high-school algebra book and
learn some of the secrets that it's taken me literally
YEARS to learn, then I'd recommend that you download a copy
of my online eBook "Double Your Dating." It's full of
literally DOZENS of the very best ideas for taking things
from one step to the next. Just go to:
http://www.doubleyourdating.com/ebook/
...now and download your copy. It's the very best investment
you can make in your dating success.
And I'll talk to you again soon.
Your Friend,
David D.
MEETING WOMEN IN DIFFERENT PLACES
***QUESTION***
Hey David,
I was wondering if you could offer any wisdom on what
you've gained from writing and responding to online
personal ads. I'm not having a great deal of luck so
far. Specifically, my questions are:
1. How brief should your descriptions of yourself
and/or your ideal catch be? I've heard it said that
"brevity is the soul of wit", but you also want to be
memorable, right?
2. When writing descriptions, should you stick with
C&F? I've noticed that humor often doesn't translate
well in written form, so I wasn't sure how to go about
all that.
3. I think I read in a previous newsletter that you
recommend not posting a picture. At the same time, I
tend to avoid ads without pictures due to having one
too many blind dates which ended with me throwing a
stick and shouting "fetch!" in order to distract her
long enough to get away. Don't you think that by
committing a picture on your ad, women might pass you
up for the same reason? Or am I mistaken?
An apprentice,
J.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
You've asked some questions that really require more of an
in-depth treatment... but here are a few pointers that have
taken me YEARS to figure out:
1) You'll get more responses in general by replying to
personal ads placed by women than you will by placing your
own ad (Unless you're a master of writing personal ads).
2) If you're going to use the personals, look at the new
ads that are placed daily, and respond as soon as a woman
places her ad. Attractive women typically get 50-100
responses per DAY to personal ads, and it's very easy to
get overwhelmed. You'll notice that a lot of women take
their ads down after just a few days... this is why.
3) Be charming and funny (also known as COCKY and funny) in
your replies (or in your ad, if you write your own). Say
things like "I was looking through all these ads here on
the internet thinking to myself "Look at all the poor,
desperate, lonely women..." and then I saw your ad and
thought to myself "Hey, here's a poor, desperate, lonely
woman that's actually CUTE..." so I thought I'd write and
see if you're as interesting on the inside as you are in
this picture..."
4) I mentioned in one of recent newsletters that I got an
email from a guy who had his picture taken with some
dolphins... and that he's getting tons of responses from
that. I've never done it myself, but it sounds like a great
idea!
***QUESTION***
Dave, love your book. I have learned more about women in
the last two months than I knew in my lifetime. The teasing
and being cocky/funny really turns them on. I have know
this girl for some time and we were mostly friends. Just
lately she said to me "I love you R,". Is it ok for me to
tell her I love her too or is it better to say nothing and
just smile which I did so far.
R.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Take a cue from Han Solo...
Say "I know".
You might throw in a sly half-smile to let her know that
you're having fun after you say it.
As far as your question of "Is it OK to tell her that I
love her too?" I can't answer that. You're at a stage
that is past our topic here.
I think that love and relationships are great, but since
this isn't the area that I choose to talk about, you're
going to have to decide for yourself.
Just don't turn into a wussy... that's bad no matter what.
***COMMENT***
It seems like a lot of the guys who subscribe to your
newsletter and buy the book - myself included - are average
guys who have trouble with girls just because they are
afraid of getting rejected. I've got an idea that might
help. Get two or three good friends together and have a
'contest' where the goal is to get shot down. Spend a day
or a night out in clubs, coffee shops, malls, etc. going up
to girls with the sole intention of having them reject you,
and whoever gets rejected the most times wins. Try out any
approach - good or bad - you can think of. Be rude, crude,
funny, serious, a nice guy, a jerk, whatever you want, and
take notes on how the girls react. If she slaps your face,
that's fine because that's the goal. And if she doesn't
shoot you down, that's even better. After a night like
this you'll become a bit 'numb' when you are rejected in
the future, and you'll have a better understanding of how
girls react to being hit on. If necessary go to a
different city for the weekend and try it out there, so
that you aren't afraid of running into these girls again.
- C.L.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
I think that the basic idea is good, but I'd say that you're
probably better off seeing who can get the most email
addresses - instead of seeing who can get shut down.