QUESTION

***QUESTION***
Ok David, first off, I would like to say thank you for
taking the years that you did to get all of this great
info., and then be generous enough to spread the knowledge.
Here is my situation. I knew this girl back in high school,
and I haven't seen her since graduation (about 2 yrs ago).
I bumped into her the other day and WOW (she is a 9.5 easy).
Well, having not yet tried out any of your techniques, I
thought "What the hell, let's go for it." It worked. The c/f
technique was golden. Got her email AND number. Well, we
eventually went out and had a great time. A couple of days
later, I went over to see her new place, and well, things
got a little wild. (it all started with your amazing kiss
technique- thanks again) So here's the deal. She likes me a
lot, and I like her a lot, but I have been playing back in
order to keep the ugly head of the "wussy" out of the
picture. When is a good time (or is there a good time at
all) to be serious with her? Do I bust on her all the time,
b/c I don't want her to think I am a jerk? Any help you can
give is great.
Thanks again.
ME
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Well, I don't exactly know what you mean by "serious".
If you mean "When can I talk about how I'm sad because
my dog got run over and my inner child needs a hug", then
NEVER is the answer.
Well, maybe you can have one "serious" conversation like
this on the 10th date, and it can last no longer than 5
minutes.
Just stay away from heavy emotional issues, problems,
drama, and general WUSS topics.
If you need a friend, GET A DOG!
lol... I forgot where that line is from, but I love it.
***QUESTION***
Mr. DeAngelo,
Well, I've got to say, after trying many, many different
methods, yours have been the first ones to work. I cut and
pasted your online personal add and sent it out to a few
women on a college-oriented site. This is after trying
(unsuccessfully) for many months to get any sort of response
from the women on the site. Before reading the newsletters,
I would've typically sent out about 20 e-mails, and got 1
response if I was lucky. This time, however, I sent out
about 5 or 6, and got 3 replies the next day! Unbelievable!
Now, for the tricky part...getting the number and the date.
I've got some leads, and I want to keep my C&F attitude up.
I'm just normally funny, but need practice at being cocky.
(I'm either too subtle, or too extreme, so I'm practicing at
finding a middle ground.) But, in the meantime, what kind of
C&F response would you give to a University-aged woman?
G.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Good job.
There are all kinds of great topics you could work with.
You could make fun of the classes they're taking, bust on
them for taking easy classes, accuse them of taking 10
years to get a 4 year degree... the list is endless.
Since you're going to be meeting these women at some
point, make sure you go and do things with them that have
"built in conversation value". Go to interesting, fun
parts of town with unusual and interesting shops.
This kind of thing creates all kinds of opportunity
for great comments... and it keeps the energy up all by
itself.
Now that you're meeting women online, do yourself a
big favor and practice your skills CHATTING with women.
Chatting is great because it slows the conversation down
to about 1/5 the normal speed, and gives you time to plan
out what you're saying.
***QUESTION***
Dear Dave,
I'm real sorry but I still cannot figure out how to build
bridges after getting the email address. Normally the next
day I send the lady an email, she replies and then I can't
think what on earth else to do. My overall goal is to get
with her - so can you help me man?
I.M.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Yes, I think I can help.
1. Set up a meeting for tea.
2. Have her stop by your place on the way to tea.
3. Have fun, interesting conversation.
4. Invite her back to your place.
5. Use the Kiss Test.
6. Use your creativity and imagination.
Don't focus too much on "getting with her", just focus on
getting to THE NEXT STEP.
In other words, when you email don't say something like:
"Hi, it was great meeting you. I'm single and nice, and
you seem like you'd make a great girlfriend for a sweet,
desperate loser like myself."
Stay off of heavy conversation. Don't talk about
relationships and marriage, etc. Just talk and enjoy
yourself. But keep progressing as you do.
As long as you relax and make each progressive step
easy and natural, you'll be fine.
Again, just take it one step at a time.
***QUESTION***
Hi David:
I’m 42 and a bald, average, confident guy. After being
recently divorced (Dec/01) after 24 yrs and thoroughly
confused about dating and what women want. I bought
[another dating book] and was even more scared to do any of
what was asked to do. I bought your course and coupled with
watching the players in clubs I knew C&F was the answer.