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I work at a children's museum. Occasionally a group of
some kind would come in, kids camp, YMCA, etc. Well usually
with these groups there are quite a few women my age. They
are usually supervising the children they bring in.
Last time a group came in some women made a point to kino.
Some would brush against me when they walked passed me
even when there was a lot of room on either side of me. Or
if I was in the way they would touch my back rather than
say something. This happens more than often to be a
coincidence.
I have no idea how I should milk this resource. I am
friggin stumped.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Well, if I were you, I think I'd sit down and make a list
of all the kinds of conversations that you could possibly
get into with these women, then create Cocky and Funny
lines for each. Finally, come up with some great ways to
get emails and numbers.
You might say:
"Where did you find time to have all these children?"
...or some other line hinting that these are her own
children.
Then, after a little banter, say:
"You know, I don't usually date women that already
have 27 kids, but give me your email, and maybe we can
talk about it."
You have all kinds of great options. Just think of some
great things to say!
***QUESTION***
David,
I was in a VERY noisy club the other night in Cabo San
Lucas (I'm on vacation) and spotted this babe dancing
alone away from the crowd. I approached her with your,
"Hi! I noticed you over here and thought I'd take a sec
to find out what you might be like... are you friendly?"
with a cocky sort of smile. She warmed up instantly and
conversation flowed into an eventual makeout session
there in the club. It was the first of three successes
I've had in one week... more than I typically had in 6
months before reading your book... so Muchos Gracias!
However, I want to get REALLY good at the Cocky & Funny
(C&F) thing and hone that skill so I come across that
way in ALL of my interactions with women (not just when
I happen to be "on"). Can you recommend some
drills/exercises or some kind of action plan to RAPIDLY
hone this skill in the next couple months? How did you
develop it?
Thanks,
E.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
The book that I always recommend is called "Comedy Writing
Secrets" by Helitzer. It's such a great book, and it has
a bunch of great exercises inside to help you increase
your humor skills. As you're working on it, just think
COCKY and Funny.
I personally developed a lot of my Cocky and Funny skills
by chatting online over instant messenger services with
women. When you use one of these IM programs, it gives you
a chance to think of great things to say, because the
conversation is about 1/5th the speed of normal
conversation. It's great practice, and you can write down
different lines to try, then get online and use them...
with real women, even!
Great job, and keep it up.
***QUESTION***
Hi,
I'll try to keep this short. First of all, your book is
great. Great tips, great guidelines. Second, as a proof
of success, a few nights ago I went out with some friends,
and tried something new, based on your guidelines. I saw
this hot girl at the bar, asking for a drink. And instead
of complimenting her on her great physical looks, I said
hi to her and told her I liked how her unusual belt looked
on her. That's it. And then turned around and walked away.
I didn't even let her talk. Ten seconds later she comes
to where I was with a friend and said to me "the good
thing is that it keeps my pants in their place", and
everything worked from there. We began to talk, etc.
I would have never done that before. I gave it a try, and
the outcome was good. That same night I stayed away from
the usual "you are pretty, blah, blah" and focused on
other things, trying to start a conversation in a C&F way,
and it works better than the usual stuff. I met about 4
girls that night. Got the hot girl's email address.
I also wanted to ask you for advice on something. After
that night's success, last night I went out to a dance
club and this is the scenario. Crowded place, loud music,
pretty girl seated in a table with other friends (guys and
girls). Can't quite assure if good eye contact is being
made because of the club lights. Let's assume there is. I
did notice she looked at me about 3 times. She never leaves
the table, she is seated between her friends (hard to
approach her). I didn't know what to do in order to have
her leave the table to try some talking. This is a major
problem. You can't just go there and approach her in front
of all her friends (can I?) I had to do something! I waited
over an hour to see if she moved, but she didn't. So I
decided to write a message on a napkin and have the waiter
give it to her. I thought this at least would define is she
was interested or not, and then move on to other target if
she wasn't. I wrote something like this: "Since I haven't
been able to run into you apart from your table, I decided
to send you this note..." and then complimented her on a
prop she had, etc, (C&F) I thought that if she was
interested she then would move to the bar, or somewhere
else where we could meet and talk. A few minutes before I
was going to send her the note, she and one of her
girlfriends stepped away from the table. While I was
watching where she was going to stop (I try not to hit on
a girl while she is moving), I realized she was leaving the
place. I thought she might come back because she didn't say
goodbye to her other friends. She never came back. She left
with a girl, but she isn't lesbian or bi either (I know who
she is). So at the end of the night (2 hours later) I
approached one of her girlfriends and asked her to give
the note to the girl (I wrote down my email). I told her I
was going to talk to her and give her the note personally,
but she had left and I couldn't do it. Her friend asked me
"so this message is from who?", I said "the guy with the
black shirt, necklace with a shark tooth, from the table
next to yours". I don't even know if she will remember, or
if she noticed because of the "unconfirmed" eye contact.
I need feedback on this, man. How do you approach a girl
in a scenario like this? What would you have done? I think
what I did is wrong, giving the note to her friend, but what
the hell. We all have to make mistakes to improve on this,
right? Thanks!! Keep up the good work. Waiting for Episode
II of Double your Dating.
R.M. from Miami
>>>MY COMMENTS:
First of all, I admire the hell out of you, because you did
SOMETHING instead of NOTHING. Nice.
Now, as for what to do in a situation like that one...
I have a friend that does something interesting. He'll call
the waiter over, and say "Can you deliver this napkin to
that girl over there? But don't tell her who it's from."
Then,
he'll draw a tic tac toe game, and put an X in one of the
squares. (Always tip the waiter a dollar!)
The napkin almost always comes back, and the game is on...
It's fun, mysterious, and the girl always wants to know
who's playing with her.
I've used this before, and it's great fun.
At some point, depending on whether you're winning or
losing,
you can come over to her table and say something like "Well,
I had to meet my worthy opponent" or "I hope you talk better
than you play" etc.
Also, if a woman gets up and is about to leave, that's a
GREAT time to go get her info!!!
Just walk up and say "Hi, I was going to come talk to you
earlier but I got busy... what's your name? Do you have
email?" Easy. And it's so natural to ask, since she's
obviously on her way out...
***QUESTION***