You INSTANTLY took a situation that would normally strip

And as for the words themselves...
You just gotta love saying: "Hey that's great I am happy
for you. (Pause - and in a lower tone) I know this is
probably a major accomplishment for you but to the rest a
the world this is kinda normal so you might not want to go
telling every stranger you see" to a hot woman at the gym!
You INSTANTLY took a situation that would normally strip
a man of all his composure and personal power, and then
REFRAMED her words in a way that caused HER to look like
the socially inept one.
Then you did something equally powerful:
YOU WALKED AWAY.
In effect, you busted on her, then PROVED BEYOND THE
SHADOW OF A DOUBT THAT YOU COULD TAKE HER OR LEAVE HER.
Actions really do speak louder than words... most guys
would have messed up that situation by standing around
waiting for her to say something. You did the right thing
by walking away.
When you combine all of these factors together, you
get a totally illogical outcome: ATTRACTION.
She realized that you weren't just some other loser
who hoped to maybe get a date by kissing up to her...
you turned out to be on of the EXCEPTIONAL men in the
world who have more personal power than her, and one of
the even MORE exceptional men who also know how to
create ATTRACTION.
This combination made her feel a feeling that you
can't create by DECIDING that you want it. It can only
be created by TRIGGERING IT.
Finally, I'd like to comment on the fact that SHE
asked YOU for YOUR number. You realize that it's not
typical for a woman to approach a man, apologize, then
ask for his number.
Women will often ask a man for his number just to
get rid of him. But not in a situation like this one.
This was different. She apologized, then told you that
she's tired of being picked up by losers... then asked
for your number. This was, in effect, her telling you
that she sees you DIFFERENTLY.
All because of your eye contact, followed by a perfect
execution of the Cocky and Funny attitude, followed by an
excellent physical demonstration of indifference.
Again, to most men this would make no sense at all.
If you consulted most relationship books, they would
argue that this type of approach would NEVER work. I
mean, men are supposed to "court" women, compliment
them... pursue them with gifts and favors, right?
Yea, right.
The problem is that the mainstream relationship
books forgot to title the chapter that suggests this
kind of behavior "HOW TO BE THE WUSS WOMEN RUN FROM" or
"HOW TO CONVINCE THE WOMAN YOU DESIRE THAT YOU HAVE NO
BACKBONE AND WOULD PAY ANY PRICE FOR HER ATTENTION" or
"SIMPLE TECHNIQUES FOR GIVING A WOMAN YOUR REPRODUCTIVE
EQUIPMENT ON A PLATTER".
The question I have for you is...
CAN YOU PUT ASIDE YOUR PRE-CONCEIVED NOTIONS ABOUT
WHY MEN AND WOMEN "SHOULD" BE ATTRACTED TO EACH OTHER
LONG ENOUGH TO SEE WHY THEY ACTUALLY ARE ATTRACTED TO
EACH OTHER?
And can you do what it takes to get yourself from
where you are to where you actually need to be in
order to attract the kinds of women that you would
like to meet and date?
It can be done, but you're going to have to do it.
As I mentioned above, the first step is to read
my book "Double Your Dating". That's the best head
start I can give you. Just go to:
http://www.doubleyourdating.com/ebook/
...now to download it. You'll be glad you did.
And I'll talk to you again soon.
Your Friend,
David D.
DATING TIP: DIFFERENCE BETWEEN ATTRACTION AND AFFECTION
If you've been reading my newsletters, and you've
read my book "Double Your Dating", then there's a good
chance that somewhere along the way you've said to
yourself "Does this guy think that long-term relationships
are healthy?"
To set the record books straight, I want to say:
Yes, I think that long-term relationships are wonderful,
healthy, and can be a great source of joy and happiness.
In fact, I've had many of them myself, and have enjoyed
some great times as a result.
But here's the distinction: If you don't learn how to
a woman feel ATTRACTED to you at the VERY BEGINNING, then
you are taking a HUGE risk. Namely, that you're going to
invest all of your time, effort, energy, emotions, gifts,
money, and life pursuing someone who may or may not ever
feel the same way about you.
If, on the other hand, you master the art of making
women feel that GUT LEVEL ATTRACTION using only your
personality, then you won't be GAMBLING as much when it
comes to women and relationships.
NOTE: My experience is that many of the things that
us guys do to try to attract a woman, i.e. buying gifts,
doing favors, etc. actually lead to the woman finding us
UN-attractive, because she sees these as needy behaviors
performed by a weak man that hide ulterior motives.
I think that long-term relationships are great. I
just don't like the idea of investing a lot of time,
energy, and money if I have no idea whether a girl even
likes me! No thanks.
How much better it is to know how to make a woman
feel that excitement, tension, and attraction at the
VERY BEGINNING. This way you're not out-of-control,
wondering where you stand. Then, if you decide that
this is someone that you'd like to spend more time
with in the future, you can start doing more
traditional "relationship" things (if YOU choose).
A relationship based on two people enjoying
each other's company and personalities is FAR stronger,
in my opinion, than one based on gifts, money and
favors.
Take a moment right now, and think about the
difference between ATTRACTION and AFFECTION. Think
about the things that make you feel ATTRACTED to a
woman, and then think about the things that make you
feel AFFECTION for a woman.
Big difference, isn't it?
Here's one for you. Do nice women stay with jerks
because they feel affection for them? In most cases I'd
doubt it. It's because the jerk is ATTRACTIVE in one
way or another.
What I've done is take the parts of the 'jerk'
personality... the parts that are ATTRACTIVE to women,
and use just those without the ABUSIVE components.
Teasing, busting her balls, creating tension,
playing hard to get, not giving her what she wants,
being unpredictable, being cocky and funny are all
ways to push the "attraction buttons" without being
abusive or mean.
Then, it's up to YOU whether you'd like to buy
gifts, pay for dinners, and do favors. When gifts
and favors are presented in the context of being an
already attractive, cocky and funny man, then they
take on a whole new meaning. They lead to a stronger
feeling of affection, devotion and commitment...
WARNING: Don't turn into a wuss just because you
decide that you really like a girl. Don't start
calling her 47 times a day and saying "Ohh, baby I
really miss you." Use gifts, favors, and romance
like a spice... not the main dish.
OK, here's the plug: If you haven't downloaded
your copy of my book "Double Your Dating", then get
to it! Go to:
http://www.doubleyourdating.com/ebook/
...right now and get it. I promise that EVERYTHING in
these newsletters will make more sense to you after
you've read it. You'll learn all about how to make
women feel that illogical, mystical, GUT LEVEL
ATTRACTION with your communication and personality.
I'll talk to you again soon.